I chanced upon an article which debunks some of the dating myths which women have come to believe over the years. I want to share them with you with the hope that you learn something new from it. So, here goes…
Myth #1: When on a date, show him how well you care for yourself and your body by eating a low-calorie meal such as veggies and salads.
The truth is, men actually want women who can eat a real meal when dining out with them. A woman who barely eats comes across as being guarded and self-conscious. Men want women to be comfortable with them and be themselves. It is hard to enjoy good food when you know that the person who is eating with you is not enjoying themselves. You do not have to stuff yourself but it would be good for you to bring your appetite with you when you go on a date.
Myth #2: When on a date, it is a good idea to look for common interests and hobbies and to focus on them.
Yes, it is true that common interests will make you feel connected. However, too many things in common will also become boring. What you need to do is to talk about interests and activities which are different from what he is accustomed to and to expose him to new and exciting things. This increases the chemical dopamine in him and that builds interest and passion. It is always nice to engage in a conversation in which you learn something new.
Myth #3: It is best that you do not talk too much. You should encourage him to talk by asking him a lot of questions.
While it is true that you should show a great deal of interest in him, not talking about yourself will actually hamper closeness. Men like women who share about themselves. They like women who use the word “I” often as this indicates self-disclosure. Sharing about yourself also encourages closeness and intimacy.
Some people believe that non-disclosure of personal details will make you look mysterious. This is not true. If you want to get closer and to develop intimacy, you have to be willing to share yourself. Always talking about the weather and about non-personal details will hinder emotional intimacy especially if only one person is doing all the sharing.
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