Just as there are indicators of a good relationship, there are also indicators that a relationship is on its way to a break up. These indicators are true regardless of whether you are married, living together or just dating:
1. You No Longer Nurture the Relationship
You no longer make an effort to continue to build your relationship. You have stopped giving each other simple acts of affection. Maybe you have stopped kissing each other goodbye, you may have stopped having lunch together or maybe even stopped texting each other.
Keep in mind that any relationship will continue to deteriorate once you stop giving affection. Relationships need a lot of work and without this, the love simply goes away.
2. You stop doing things for her/him
In addition to stopping the things that make your relationship grow, you now have decided to stop doing things for him/her because he/she didn’t do something for you. You withhold on things to punish your partner. Engaging in this behavior is not good and definitely builds resentment on both sides.
3. You Feel Misunderstood
Gone are the days when you can finish each other’s sentences. Now, you are just wondering why he/she cannot understand you. Arguments continue on in circles because you do not see eye to eye. When this happens, other areas of your relationship also gets affected. Physical intimacy is dwindles and you start acting more like roommates than a couple in love.
4. You Have Lesser Fights
Once you start acting like roommates, the emotional intimacy suffers among others. You no longer communicate and you start to detach from the other person. Because of this, you have lesser fights because you no longer care. You no longer feel the need to have him/her understand you. You have given up hope of being understood and have decided that he/she will never understand you again.
Once you experience any or all of the above situations, it would be best that you take a week off to sort things out for yourself. Spend sometime alone without your partner and try to see how life is without him/her.
Think things through and ask yourself some questions. Take a hard look at your relationship and try to figure out whether the relationship is worth saving. Is the relationship going in the direction you would want it to go? Is the relationship still making you happy?
Whatever your decision is, keep in mind that it is important for you to be honest to yourself as well as your partner. There is no sense in trying to cover up your true feelings and intentions as this will only cause you and your partner pain.
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