First of all, it is very possible to find your soul mate in cyberspace. Those who say otherwise have other not tried it or not tried it the right way.
The secret is how to ‘putting yourself out’ there. With this medium you need maximum exposure in the right cyberspace circles. You need to think about what type of person you are looking for.
For example, if you are very young Facebook and the like will still be acceptable ways to find the one. Stage 2 and 3 will be the same for all ages. During stage one, if you are a bit more mature and hopefully quite selective, you truly need to sit down and focus on what you seek, the type of woman or man you want to date and hopefully spend your life with. If it’s a serious, intelligent, reflective, sensitive human being you are looking for, then need to focus on media or matching sites which allow you to express yourself fully, who you are, in many ways and in all your facets, and of course allow the other person to do the same.
It is extremely tempting to seek the photos of those we particularly like and exclude the rest. If both of you do this you will end up dating many people who are unsuitable, and then you’ll conclude that this medium does not work. To make it work, you need to expose and convey who you really are, your hopes, your dreams, the way you like to live, your fears even, so that the person who is considering contacting you can have a good idea of the person you are before you meet.
Of course there must be some chemistry but you can’t really base it on a photograph, no matter how pretty or handsome the other person seems to be. Chemistry is based on so many intangibles (as well as psychological triggers), that you can’t really base anything on a flat photo.
Some people like to date immediately in real life and others like to get to know those they are talking to before committing to a date. I prefer the latter as a better way to actually avoid a chain of incompatible dates. However, avoid the traps of falling for a married person who’s posing as single, for example. The best way to avoid this is to make sure you can call them on their land line (not only at work or on the cell) and that you can choose when to call them. Be suspicious of someone who seems to be available only at 11pm, for example.
When I was using this medium to find my soul mate I never had problems. I could easily weed out the ‘crazies’ or the time-wasters, or the married ones. The key lay in how I presented myself. My profile was long, detailed; mostly about my life dreams and what I really enjoyed (avoid a laundry list of likes and dislikes, that’s just boring). That way anybody who wasn’t serious about finding a soul mate would go elsewhere.
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