Planning for your wedding brings many questions to light. What have you envisioned for your wedding, where will it be, how will you look. What you have been dreaming of can be a small intimate affair or it can be a grand event. The choice is yours, or is it? Does it depend on who is paying for your wedding?
Traditionally, the bride’s family would pick up the tab for the cost of your wedding. With the average cost of a wedding skyrocketing, and more couples getting married later in life, these traditional roles are far from set in stone. Many couples have been living together for years now, so does that still make it tradition for the brides parents to pay? Here is what the brides parents traditionally pay for;
- Reception costs, including food, music, decorations, rental fees and entertainment
- Ceremony Costs including rental fees, decorations
- Flowers for Ceremony and Reception
- The bride’s wedding dress and accessories
- Invitations, announcements, programs, and mailing costs
- Favors
- Photography
- Transportation
- Their own attire and travel expenses
The grooms parents traditionally cover the cost of ;
- The rehearsal dinner, including food, invitations, decorations and entertainment
- Their own attire and travel expenses
- A wedding present
This leaving the bride and groom to cover the costs of the wedding rings and any keepsakes they wish to purchase. In today’s society this generally no longer applies. Is it realistic to expect the brides parents to take out a second or third mortgage to cover the costs of your wedding? It maybe with couples getting married later on in life that they have saved up a good chunk of the cost themselves. It will then likely fall to the parents who can afford to help out. If this happens to be the case on both sides the best idea here is to sit down with everyone.
Pooling your resources will allow you to get the biggest bang for your buck. If you and your mate have the biggest chunk of the money saved, your in the position to have the wedding you desire. When sitting down with both sets of parents, have a pen and paper ready to map out who will cover what cost. It may be that with covering some costs, your parents will like to have a hand in your wedding planning. Figure this dynamic out before you accept any money. Discussing the plans for your wedding with your parents will allow you both to convey a united front in the vision you have. If financially it is achievable, your parents may not have to pay for anything at all.
Expecting your parents to pay for lavish taste is a little unrealistic. No one should go in debt inorder to get married. If you cannot afford the wedding you would like, perhaps waiting to get married would help to save up so money towards it. The other option would be to scale down what you have originally envisioned for you wedding, and perhaps opt for an intimate ceremony.





