I married my best friend. Have you every heard someone say that? It can be very true. Being in any relationship should have that element to it. Knowing your with someone you share many things with, but the act of friendship is possibly the most important. Why? Because it breeds friendship which is the best foundation for communication in a relationship. How can you establish trust which is a key ingredient in a relationship if you don’t first have the proper communication? There are few way to view why communication is so important.
Is it a Fling or Just a Thing?
Getting longevity out of a relationship can only depend on what you put into it. Knowing that you are trying to establish a foundation of trust and respect will make communication easier in your relationship. So many of us wonder why our relationships aren’t as strong as they should be. If you are in a relationship for the long haul you put all the effort you have into making it able to sustain. Effective and constant communication is the key. If your in a relationship for a short period of time, likely you won’t find it necessary to put so much effort in.
Are You Silent, or Stubborn?
When your in a relationship it is natural to argue. It can be also a natural reaction to want to walk away and not discuss what your feeling. While taking step back might be wise from a temper stand point, bottling up your feelings is harmful to your relationship. Inevitably your feelings will mount, causing frustration, aggravation and resentment. These feelings will be extremely difficult to deal with because they will be an accumulation of prior issues.
Being stubborn by withholding communication will get you no where. It certainly will only harm your relationship. Taking a moment to compose yourself into a calmer state is a great idea. Open communication with a cool head will help solve any issues at hand. Being able to discuss an issue with tensions contained will allow the room for progress. This is an important step in your relationship. Being able to freely speak with emotion can bring your bond closer together.
Are You In?
Making yourself available for those discussion that can be uncomfortable or awkward is all part of being in a relationship. No one wants to be uncomfortable, but some things need to be discussed even if they make you feel bad. There will always be tense situations that have to be dealt with, running away isn’t an option unless you are walking away from your relationship also. Making sure you are there to listen, support and accept accountability when the time calls for it, is a very important part of your relationship. Otherwise there is no communication, and your relationship becomes a one sided venture.
Asking the hard questions, and demanding more of yourself might be called for if open communication is outside your comfort zone. In the end , your relationship will either be better for it, or it will end. At the very least you can take comfort in knowing what every happens will be based on your decisions, and not your inability to communicate.





