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Importance of Long Distance Relationships Statistics

April 9, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

If you are someone who has found themselves partaking in a long distance relationship it is time you prepare yourself for a very bumpy road. This is one kind of relationship that takes a lot of effort and trust. If you know it is something you can’t handle then avoid it, or you could ultimately destroy an amazing thing with your partner.


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Tell me, do long distance relationships statistics really matter? All you really care about is whether or not your relationship is going to stand the test of time. You only need to know how to make relationship last. It is saddening how many people focus on how many long distance relationships last. They can actually be a truly amazing thing if you know how to manage it properly.

How to make your relationship last? Forget about all the long distance relationships statistics. Believe me when I tell you that distance is not the end of the world in a relationship. Distance cannot hurt a bond between two people in love, if it is based on mutual respect, trust and commitment. If you believe that love and relationships are what make your life special, and if it is built on love and understanding, then they are truly worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate the two of you.

I’m not going to tell you it will be easy, and you will need some help to make this work. The old saying “absence makes the heart grow stronger” may sound good in a song or movie, but when reality sets in, and you’re apart for six months or so, it may be more than your relationship can take, if you don’t have some kind of understanding what you’re up against.

You need to learn how to cope with saying goodbye again and again. You will guaranteed experience some emotional stages you didn’t know were possible when involved in a long distance relationship. And you may not think it could ever happen to you, but you need to be able to combat out-of-sight / out-of-mind temptations.


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To improve your long distance relationships statistics, you need to also know the key to preventing phone arguments. Believe it or not, living apart can actually strengthen a relationship, as long as there is hope that one day you will be together again. You also need to understand why long distance love is different for a woman, than it is for a man.

And lastly, you need to recognize the warning signs that your relationship may be ending, before it’s too late. Luckily for you and your long distance love, you can get all the information you need to help you through this, and not have to worry about long distance relationships statistics anymore. You have the opportunity to instantly download the relationship advice books to help you start improving the quality of your relationship today. Keep the fires of love burning, no matter where you are.

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Enhancement of Your Long Distance Relationship

March 29, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Do long distance relationships work or is it just a waste of time? There are people who find love far and wide. They are not restricted in any way by geographical boundaries. They are exploring looking for love through the chat rooms and dating sites on the Internet. The modern technology has made long distance relationship a success and even better than a normal relationship.

The sophistication of such a relationship is one to be admired. Many are of the idea that their love can get greater than geography; that their true mates are far away in a different country, state or even continent.

How do you make a long distance relationship work? You might be physically apart but your hearts are so much together. To make your long distance relationship work, agree on how often you will keep in touch. You will agree with me that communication is the number one ingredient to a relationship that works. You can be together but you have to be forced to talk.

It doesn’t matter where you are geographically as long as you communicate. For instance you can agree to be calling each other at night either two or three times. You can as well send several e-mails a day. Nowadays people are mostly using e-mail and phones to kill distance but it would be a special treat to drop a hand written letter at your lovers home. It gives them butterflies and a feeling that you are closer.

When you are discussing the contacts issue, discuss about your physical visits. Who should visit who first and how often. This will clear the course your long distance relationship will be taking. What do you talk about in your conversations? Do you continuously whine about how much you love and miss each other? Considerable content of this is okay but do not dwell on it day in day out.

Let your long distance relationship partner feel part of your life by telling him/her your every day experiences. Tell them about your nagging neighbor, your experience with the bad smelling guy you sat next to in the bus and may be an unexpected car puncture.

You should not wait until the time you will physically come together. You should practice phone sex to keep each other faithful and trusted. Spice up your feelings and enjoy your time apart by having sex the fantasizing way. The brain is the greatest sex organ and you have it with you. Make it happen by the descriptions of your love making through the small gadget. Send to each other dirty stories or lyrics via e-mail or put it in phone lines. Provided you do not print them you are still safe.

Finally, to enhance long distance relationship, you should stay active in your social life. Meet your other friends and have fun. The last thing you want is to be home so alone and bored. This will make you resent your partner for being so far away from you

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Making Your Long Distance Relationship Work

March 23, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Long distance relationships and some helpful tips to get through the tough times of being so far away from a loved one. If your in a Long Distance relationship or thinking about entering one here is all the help you will need to make sure that your relationship stands the test of time.

With all the high tech advances going on in the word today, long distance love is actually starting to work. There are loads of various online companies with free software that will keep you in very close contact with anyone any where in the world, such as:

Skype, Skype is a computer program that can be used to make free voice calls over the Internet to anyone else who is also using Skype. It’s free and considered easy to download and use, and works with most computers. Once you download, register and install the software, you’ll need to plug in a headset, speakers or USB phone to start using Skype.

MSN Messenger, MSN Messenger is another source similar to skype and only its more personalized so that you only chat with the people you invite into your system. MSN Messenger also offers web cam viewing and live video all you have to do is download and add the email addresses of the people you wish to communicate with. Yahoo also has a version of this kind of software, I have used all three from time to time and find that for broadband users that Skype is the easiest and the best quality.

If you’re in a long distance relationship, and for the purpose of this article I am going to example a relationship of 2 people on other sides of the world to each other. Send an email so that your partner wakes up to you first thing in the mornings. It’s always nice to wake up to a loving thought in the morning. Mobile phones are expensive to use and not everyone has the money to talk on them every night but send an SMS message from time to time, let your partner know that you always have them on your mind. Time differences are a hazard but they can also make you look like a superstar.

Every women loves waking up to a romantic poem sent to her phone when she was asleep or even an email. If you’re just starting a long distance relationship learn all the important dates and write them down like birthdays etc. . Dating someone on the other side of the world does not mean they don’t get older.

If your doing something special yourself make sure you take a few pictures and send them to your partner they will appreciate seeing your face. And again will conform in their mind that they are important to you. The more you can make your partner feel like they are only living just down the road from you the better chances you have of making your new relationship work.

Its hard being so far away from someone you love but it’s not impossible. Use technology to its fullest and even send each other small gifts through the post office. The more personal things seem for both of you the more your going to succeed.

Long distance relationships do work and with today’s technologies available for free seeing someone face to face is as easy as turning on your computer and saying hello. Download a couple of the programs I have suggested, you want be disappointed it’s free easy and they all come with great help instructions.

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Six Tips to Repair Long Distance Relationship Problems

March 22, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Being in a long distance relationship is hard…really hard. I am now married to my long distance guy. 5 short minutes is all it takes to get your long distance lover back and just when you feel like all is lost.

Long distance relationships are a very difficult relationship to be a part of and if you start feeling like issues are developing you may want to get control of them quickly. How do you get your love back when all seems lost? I received the following question:

“My relationship was going well and then it plummeted. It was a long distance relationship but it was going so well and strong for 7 months and then crashed. I would give anything to get her back and I really need some advice. “

This is just one example of countless questions I receive asking advice for basically the same problem. So how do you fix a relationship that has gone bad? Go for the 6-point checklist.

Go visit

If you really would do anything, I suggest you start by going to see your partner and try and work things out. Long distance relationships are hard, but don’t let anybody ever tell you they can’t work out. My girlfriend/wife and I were in a long distance relationship for more than three years, and we’re in one again. It sucks big time, but it’s definitely still worth it. If there really are problems in your relationship, it’s best to discuss it in person.

Phone calls, Skype, webcams, etc. are all great resources that you can use to communicate, but real problems need real people to sort them out. Not people on computer screens or voices on the other side of telephones. This is not to say you can’t work it out over the distance, so don’t just give up yet. It’s just easier in person.

Do some digging

Find out exactly what led to the (possible) breakup. Dig deep. If it’s something one of you said, dig deeper still and find out what led to that being said. I would assume that you are not an inherently bad person, so if you said something bad, there must have been a reason for you to say it. Don’t stop digging once you’ve reached what looks like an answer. Maybe there’s an even deeper level, something that happened a long time ago. And quite possibly, that something was a complete misunderstanding. It’s happened to us a lot, and I don’t think we’re unique in that way.

Be brutally honest

You have to be brutally honest, both with yourself, and with your partner. Your digging will lead to some things you wouldn’t want to know, both about yourself and your partner. You should be prepared for it. This is not the time for mud slinging. This is the time to be a couple. Couples stand together through everything and help each other. You need to admit to the things you find.

Admit your mistakes

Admit those mistakes that you’ve uncovered. Admitting mistakes isn’t saying: “I was brought up this way, I can’t change. . . ” Admitting your mistakes means finding out what you’ve been doing wrong so far and actively doing something about it. This is where your partnership will be instrumental. You have work together with each other to come out better as a team on the other side. But don’t stop at your partner. You should also use the help of friends and family. They may be even more brutally honest with you than your partner.

What are your plans?

Does your partner know that you have long term plans for your relationship? You do have long term plans don’t you? Like maybe getting married eventually? If you’re serious about making this relationship work, I would assume it’s because you feel that there is a possibility of a long term relationship. Maybe if your partner knows that’s the way you really feel you will get renewed energy and a renewed sense of direction in your relationship. Seriously, I’ll never tell you when to break a relationship. Only you can ever tell yourself that. But if you don’t see a long term goal for your relationship, a long distance relationship is not your best option. Long distance relationships are harder work than normal relationships, so you have to have something to work for. In our case, as with many others, it was and is definitely worth it, no matter the distance, and no matter how long we are apart.

Make some sacrifices

You will have to make some sacrifices in your relationship, but weigh it up against the rewards, and eventually it’s no sacrifice at all. As an example, I spent a lot of money during the course of our long distance relationship in order to visit Mari often enough. But I never saw our relationship in terms of a monetary value. What I got in return is something that no amount of money can ever buy. Maybe your sacrifice is something else. Maybe you just need to spend less time doing something else you want to do, and spend more time on the phone with your partner. Or maybe you should take the plunge and look for a job closer to your partner. Even if it may mean that you will have to work for a lower salary.

Never just give up on your relationship without a fight (for the relationship that is, not a fight in the relationship). Every relationship goes through a bit of a rough patch from time to time. Long distance relationships are no different so be prepared to work a little extra hard along the way. If you want to work and so does your partner the outcome will be much better.

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Maintaining Your Long Distance Relationship

March 15, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Long distance relationships and some helpful tips to get through the tough times of being so far away from a loved one.

If your in a Long Distance relationship or thinking about entering one here is all the help you will need to make sure that your relationship stands the test of time.

With all the high tech advances going on in the word today, long distance love is actually starting to work. There are loads of various online companies with free software that will keep you in very close contact with anyone any where in the world, Such as:

Skype, Skype is a computer program that can be used to make free voice calls over the Internet to anyone else who is also using Skype. It’s free and considered easy to download and use, and works with most computers. Once you download, register and install the software, you’ll need to plug in a headset, speakers or USB phone to start using Skype.

MSN Messenger, MSN Messenger is another source similar to skype and only its more personalized so that you only chat with the people you invite into your system. MSN Messenger also offers web cam viewing and live video all you have to do is download and add the email addresses of the people you wish to communicate with. Yahoo also has a version of this kind of software, I have used all three from time to time and find that for broadband users that Skype is the easiest and the best quality.

If you’re in a long distance relationship, and for the purpose of this article I am going to example a relationship of 2 people on other sides of the world to each other. Send an email so that your partner wakes up to you first thing in the mornings. It’s always nice to wake up to a loving thought in the morning.

Mobile phones are expensive to use and not everyone has the money to talk on them every night but send an SMS message from time to time, let your partner know that you always have them on your mind.

Time differences are a hazard but they can also make you look like a superstar. Every women loves waking up to a romantic poem sent to her phone when she was asleep or even an email.

If you’re just starting a long distance relationship learn all the important dates and write them down like birthdays etc. . Dating someone on the other side of the world does not mean they don’t get older.

If your doing something special yourself make sure you take a few pictures and send them to your partner they will appreciate seeing your face. And again will conform in their mind that they are important to you.

The more you can make your partner feel like they are only living just down the road from you the better chances you have of making your new relationship work. Its hard being so far away from someone you love but it’s not impossible. Use technology to its fullest and even send each other small gifts through the post office. The more personal things seem for both of you the more your going to succeed.

Long distance relationships do work and with today’s technologies available for free. Seeing someone face to face is as easy as turning on your computer and saying hello. Download a couple of the programs I have suggested, you want be disappointed it’s free easy and they all come with great help instructions.

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Long Distance Relationships – Who Pays for What?

March 10, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Long distance relationships are inherently expensive. You have an unnaturally high phone/communication bill, and there’s a large amount of (often expensive) traveling involved. So naturally, the question may arise: Which partner has to take the financial burden?

If you’re both well-off and in successful careers, then the question becomes irrelevant, but what happens when, e. g. one partner is still studying while the other one is working. Or one partner is in a high paying job, and the other is in a lower paid job. Plane tickets, etc. will cost the same both ways, so it doesn’t have to do with which partner goes to visit which.

Let’s take the scenarios one at a time.

Both highly paid

I don’t really see a problem there. If you sort of go 50/50 with your expenses, then there’s no need to worry. Money really isn’t that important at all.

Both underpaid or studying

If you’re both in equally tough situations, then you should probably still help each other out by going 50/50. It’s up to you to decide which partner will be traveling, etc. but it doesn’t really make a difference does it? If your partner comes to visit you, you also gain from it, therefore you’re equal.

One partner is paid less, or still studying

This is the situation my wife and I were in, even before we were married. I went to work straight after leaving university. She still stayed on for another 3 years, the last year of which we were married. After getting married, obviously our expenses were all shared, so the last year can be ruled out. In our case, it was a no-brainer. I went to visit her as often as I could, and gladly paid for my own traveling expenses, or when she came to visit me, I paid for her expenses. I often joke with my wife by saying I could have been a much wealthier person if it wasn’t for the long distance relationship.

Now why do you think I did that? (pay the expenses, not make the joke). Long before we were engaged, we knew that we were going to get married eventually, so my money was her money was my money anyway. She couldn’t pay, because she just didn’t have the money. She could of course pay out of her student loan, but that would have been silly. Once we got married, we started paying off her student loans together, so if she paid out of her student loans, it would have been our money anyway – plus interest.

Where is your relationship going?

So what advice can I actually give you? If you feel that you are definitely going to get married and that it’s just a matter of time, you should consider sharing your expenses in a way that is mutually beneficial.

So what if you’re not convinced that you’re going to get married? Well, you can’t just decide to get married instantly. That would be irresponsible, as there are certain character traits that do only come up after you’ve been in a relationship for a while. In that case, I suggest first focusing on your relationship itself before you start worrying about the financial side of it.

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Are long distance relationships ever really worth it?

March 6, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

I am in a long distance relationship right now, and let me tell you it’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I understand that things have to be this way for now, my question to you though, is, what are your opinions on long distance relationships? I can’t go see my boyfriend until next year, because of transportational issues, and because of lack of expenses. He lives about 450 miles away.

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Long Distance Relationships Success Through Good Management

March 4, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment


Any relationship should be special and meaningful for both the partners, whether it is long-distance or not. If there is love and trust between two individuals, it does not make a difference whether they are living together or separated from each other.
But it might be overwhelming at times when partners are faced with too many challenges and setbacks and cannot handle them alone, just because they are not spending their daily lives together. Some tips could be helpful for people who are going through tough separation periods.
Long distance relationships can actually enhance maturity, bonding and growth. You learn to be honest to each other and show respect and trust for each other. Since there is no day-to-day interaction with each other, each one’s thoughts are not communicated to each other for which there is no discussion and reflection.
The most important thing about long-distance relationships is to listen to each other in a caring manner. You must have implicit trust in your partner, and this can only be facilitated if there is total honesty in the partnership.
Each partner should voluntarily offer information and show empathy. Each one in the relationship should feel secure and be prompted to open up to each other. This is possible if each one shows what you are feeling and are reflecting about the relationship. For this you need to communicate with each other frequently and this is the core of building and maintaining any long-distance relationship.
If you are staying together it is possible to talk or check in with your partner at least once a day. Just this one-time talk can be a stabilizing force to a relationship. But when the partners are living away from each other, this force has to be established in different ways. Just pick up the phone and talk to your partner at least once a day, even if it is for a few minutes. This enables you to share details and updates about each other’s lives. Also, if you check in with each other, you can definitely look forward to something special during the day. And you can always make plans and discuss your next reunion.
Make your questions emotionally intimate and this will automatically strengthen the bond between each other, just showing how much you mean to each other. Talk openly about the relationship itself by asking questions about it, like how you are feeling about each other. Or whether any of you harbor any concerns or worries about the relationship.
You don’t have to restrict yourself to phoning in this day and age. Technology is a boon to long-distance relationships. Of course cell phones offer ‘free night and weekends’ plans, and on the whole telephoning has become cheaper and more convenient. Making use of a different technology like the email or text message could definitely come as a surprise and add a bit of spice to your long-distance relationship. Internet free greeting cards or letters via “snail mail” could be romantic and also a keepsake memento for times when you are both lonely and missing each other.
There are often misunderstandings, misinterpretations and hard feelings between the partners living apart from each other. But it is essential to maintain a sense of humor with your partner.
Understanding the partner and knowing each other well should nurture a healthy relationship. In the bargain you get to know, understand and accept your partner with the strengths and weaknesses as well as positive and negative qualities.

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Long Distance Relationships Made Successful Through Good Management

March 2, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Any relationship should be special and meaningful for both the partners, whether it is long-distance or not. If there is love and trust between two individuals, it does not make a difference whether they are living together or separated from each other. But it might be overwhelming at times when partners are faced with too many challenges and setbacks and cannot handle them alone, just because they are not spending their daily lives together. Some tips could be helpful for people who are going through tough separation periods. Long distance relationships can actually enhance maturity, bonding and growth. You learn to be honest to each other and show respect and trust for each other. Since there is no day-to-day interaction with each other, each one’s thoughts are not communicated to each other for which there is no discussion and reflection. The most important thing about long-distance relationships is to listen to each other in a caring manner. You must have implicit trust in your partner, and this can only be facilitated if there is total honesty in the partnership. Each partner should voluntarily offer information and show empathy. Each one in the relationship should feel secure and be prompted to open up to each other. This is possible if each one shows what you are feeling and are reflecting about the relationship. For this you need to communicate with each other frequently and this is the core of building and maintaining any long-distance relationship. If you are staying together it is possible to talk or check in with your partner at least once a day. Just this one-time talk can be a stabilizing force to a relationship. But when the partners are living away from each other, this force has to be established in different ways. Just pick up the phone and talk to your partner at least once a day, even if it is for a few minutes. This enables you to share details and updates about each other’s lives. Also, if you check in with each other, you can definitely look forward to something special during the day. And you can always make plans and discuss your next reunion. Make your questions emotionally intimate and this will automatically strengthen the bond between each other, just showing how much you mean to each other. Talk openly about the relationship itself by asking questions about it, like how you are feeling about each other. Or whether any of you harbor any concerns or worries about the relationship. You don’t have to restrict yourself to phoning in this day and age. Technology is a boon to long-distance relationships. Of course cell phones offer ‘free night and weekends’ plans, and on the whole telephoning has become cheaper and more convenient. Making use of a different technology like the email or text message could definitely come as a surprise and add a bit of spice to your long-distance relationship. Internet free greeting cards or letters via “snail mail” could be romantic and also a keepsake memento for times when you are both lonely and missing each other. There are often misunderstandings, misinterpretations and hard feelings between the partners living apart from each other. But it is essential to maintain a sense of humor with your partner. Understanding the partner and knowing each other well should nurture a healthy relationship. In the bargain you get to know, understand and accept your partner with the strengths and weaknesses as well as positive and negative qualities.

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What are your thoughts on long distance relationships?

February 28, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Can you love the person you are in a long distance relationship in? Can they work?

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