Managing a Relationship During the Recession

The destabilization of our current economy is the result of selfishness and greed.   A huge number of people participated in what turned out to be a drunken party.   Now that it is over, it is time to clean up and start again.   I feel deeply for all who will suffer and offer this relationship advice to aid your family during these times.

Your family is a blessing.   Appreciate all of the wonderful qualities of your spouse and your children.   Don’t take them for granted anymore.   It is so easy to recognize the flaws in others, especially those who we are closest to.   That is one of the great traps of life.   Your mind, your own mind, can be very troublesome as it is filled with all sorts of thoughts and feelings that never seem to get sorted out.

Far too many people merely run from the chaos of their mind (through alcohol or medication) without realizing they have the innate ability to control it.   The mind can torture you or it can be your best friend, but only after you have conquered it and placed it under your own control. Control your mind by not blaming, not criticizing and not taking things so seriously.

Proactively love your spouse with loving actions and loving thoughts.   Yes you can!  It is your mind!  As soon as you see a thought or feeling that is anything but positive, crowd it out with thoughts and feelings that are more desirable.   Don’t you realize how much power you have?

When you control your mind you control everything. When I asked my father how he was able to survive concentration camp he said to me, “I never gave up. ” I am blessed with the ability to compare my own economic trials with my father’s loss of his family, his country and his entire life up to that point.   Keep things in perspective. Realize how much you have and how much better your life will be by appreciating your spouse and giving them nothing but love.   The current situation will pass, but the love you give will fill you forever.

Staying Positive During A Weight Loss Plateau

Have you hit a plateau in your weight loss which is when your scale seems to be stuck at the same weight for days or sometimes weeks? If you are there right now, don’t panic! It’s only a temporary condition and you will be losing again if you just keep your cool, your courage and your will to reach your healthy weight! Now is not the time to give up! Congratulations on your weight loss so far! What you’re experiencing is common, as many successful dieters find their weight remains static for several days or some stay put for a week or two.

Why this happens isn’t clear but it seems to be the body’s way of ‘catching up’ with its sudden change in size. Although it’s disappointing when you don’t lose weight steadily, this is a crucial time for you. It’s at this point that many people give up, fail to reach their goal and pile the weight back on. In contrast, most people who get through this difficult patch go on to reach their goal, and then stay slim forever.

There’s never been a more important time for you to stay motivated so look back on your success to date, whether that’s checking out your journal or comparing pictures of yourself before you started losing weight, with pictures now. You might also find it motivating to measure your vital statistics, even though the scales don’t show a loss, you might still find you’re losing inches. I always suggest that you weight only once a week, first thing the same day of the week and also try on the same pair of jeans to see how they are fitting.

If you haven’t already done so, you should make sure you update your goals Chart with your current weight. So, what do you do? Well. Please don’t stop your program!

1. Make sure you are staring your day with a Medifast meal! With in the first hour of waking, fuel your body with highly nutririous shake, oatmeal, or capacino.

2. Make sure you are getting all 5 medifast meals in daily. The easiest way to guarantee this is to eat every 3 hours.

3. Be honest, are you measuring your lean and green meal to assure the proper calories and carbs? Remember that the meal should be around 33 calories and 10 carbs.

4. Begin an exercise program that will help to boost your metabolism. Simply walking at a good pace (can still walk and talk) is a great way to start. Add weight training and more vigorus aerobics as you feel fit to do so. Building muscle is important to your maintenance program because as you increase your muscle mass you’ll increase the amount of calories you burn on a day to day basis.

5. Change your workout if you have been doing the same thing for awhile. For example, Change out the elipticle for the treadmill or bicycle. Begin swimming or choosing different weight machines or exercise tape.

6. Ask for Help. Chances are your Health Advisor has been through a plateau and can give you some great tips and motivation!

7. There may be some stress in your life that is causing your weight loss to slow. Make sure you are getting enough sleep.

8. Make sure that you are drinking enough water. You can take your current weight divide it in half and that will give you an approximate amt of water needed/day.

9. Strengthen your will power. This is the time to reflect on how well you’ve done so far, how you like your new found body and self, the control over food and choices that comes with this program.

10. Do not be hard on yourself! It happens to almost everyone, no matter what weight loss program they choose. The difference will be whether you stick it out or quit. And remember, the feeling and empowerment you will feel when you reach your goal not to forget the lifestyle you will have (able to do a lot more activity) once you’ve gotten those unwanted pounds off is so worth the wait and continued effort!

Why can’t I read my Eharmony email during the free weekend?

Why can’t I read my Eharmony email during the free weekend?

Lingerie Sells During Recessions

With America‚Äôs economy coming to a disappointing low as 2009 rolls on, people are pinching every penny. This means cutting spending in several areas, but for many American women, aesthetics is one area that can‚Äôt be cut. Make-up, lingerie, and accessories are staples to most American women‚Äôs fashion diets, and few are willing to cut it out of their lives even during tough times. Lingerie sales in particular increase substantially, in some cases by 20%, during recessions for numerous reasons. Lingerie goes hand-in-hand with spring weather because of the increase of new couples, weddings, and warmer weather. In recessions, dating sites such as eHarmony. com and Chemistry. com offer discounts on their services, which leads to a higher revenue of people, and in turn, an increase in new romances. During the ‚Äúhoneymoon‚Äù stage of dating, the first 6 months, women are more apt to buying lingerie to impress and excite. Likewise, the purchase of lingerie during a recession is less likely to leave the buyer feeling guilty than say, buying an expensive new car. Lingerie boosts self-esteem in many women, and brings a quick feeling of comfort, especially when other purchases seem tough to justify. Lingerie brings quick comfort, particularly during ‚Äútherapy shopping‚Äù (shopping as a distraction, purchasing material possessions to bring comfort). Women wear lingerie to feel sexy, to impress, and to enhance their body image. Depression can be rampant when the economy is bleak, and lingerie, along with make-up and new clothing, is a quick self esteem boost. Businesses, of course, during recessions offer more sales and discounts in order to keep buyers interested. Victoria‚Äôs Secret extended their semi-annual sale in 2009 in favour of their hard-on-cash shoppers. Lingerie site www. Yandy. com has 150+ items on sale and clearance, with $10-$20 price cuts on already reasonable prices. Though the decline of the economy can feel depressing, lingerie is a quick spirit booster, and reasonable enough to purchase. Confidence and beauty comes from inside, but there’s no reason the outside can’t show it too.