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Conversation Ideas for First Dates

November 15, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

It never fails. Sweaty palms, your brain freezes and you clam up. Why do first date conversations have to invoke so much anxiety? If you think about it to much you can consider that this is your first chance to make a first impression on someone. It is also going to set the tone for the entire date, which will then determine if there is a second date. That leads to whether or not you could potentially have  meaningful relationship with this person.

Okay, analyzing this only makes it worse, no wonder when this all rests on your shoulders you have set yourself up for failure. Take a deep breathe, there are a few ways to prepare yourself. With a couple of conversation starters you can ease your anxiety and hopefully  dry up those sweaty palms.

Where Have You Been?

No, this is not to be used as a pick up line. Lots of people today have done even a little traveling. Ask thought provokeing questions on the travel that has already done. Where, when, why? Leave out the question of with whom, as it can only lead to an answer that may be to awkward to answer. Save you and your date the embarrassment and perhaps stick to the questions that will blossom a conversation.

Reality Anyone?

With pop culture today, reality TV is big in the every “buzz”. This allows a number of conversation to open the floor. Even if you love it or hate it, it still provides the ability to have a great debate for some conversation with substance. If you can hold the other persons interest, this can be a lengthy conservation that will show case your knowledge and ability to “discuss” without arguing. This is a very important attribute.

Entertain Me

Trying to have a conversation with someone shouldn’t feel forced. Talking about your interests should include things like music, movies, play or theater if your interested. Express what your likes and dislikes are. Having an opinion isn’t wrong, it’s how you express it. If you can convey your opinion in a manner that is both respectful and articulate you should have no problems hold ing the conversation. Being respectful of someone else opinion is a great way to show your opened minded, but at the same time still able to maintain your own. There is something to be said for someone who is able to be true to their own beliefs and opinions.

Don’t become a “yes man” in your first date. Agreeing with everything someone thought the entire conversation doesn`t make for good conversation, it just makes for a stale one. Keeping your own opinions and thoughts when conversing with allow for a actual discussion. Never  bring up past relationships or your pay check.

Past relationships encompass a ton of informationthat only needs to be left in the past. Relating any experiences into your first date conversation probably won’t get you a second date. Discussing how much or how little money your make is just in poor taste. Keep your first date enjoyable and entertaining. It just might get you second one.

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Questions Not to Ask on a First Date

November 10, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

First dates can always be so anxiety ridden it can feel like a mine field. With so much pressure looming over a first date it’s hard to know how to handle it. For even the most outgoing of people it can still be a nerve wracking experience. Conversation usually is the biggest element when your on a first date. Why? Because conversation generally dictates the chemistry level between the twp people. There are so many ways to end your date before it begins with bad conversation that you really need to be aware of what not to say to avoid ruining your first date. Where do you go with your conversation, what do you say, how do you say it and most importantly what don’t you say? Here’s some questions best left avoided when you are on a first date;

How Old Are You?

While you may think there is a reason to know the answer to this question, it isn’t something that should be asked on the firs date. This can be regarded as an offensive question to some, while others wouldn’t find it a problem. On a first date there is no way to know which way your date will view this questions so it is better left unasked.

How Much Money Do You Make?

This question should totally be off limits. Sure, discuss profession, schooling, whatever you like but stay away from money. Not only is it in bad taste, it gives of the “gold digger vibe”. Having a conversation about profession can be interesting and hold allot of interest, it does not have to divulge how much money is made. It quickly can end your date.

So What Happened With Your Last Relationship?

Asking about previous relationships is a sure fire way to end your date, sooner rather than later. It can open what you would call “Pandora’s Box”. You have no way of knowing where your date has been in relationships and if it is at all a touchy subject. Try getting to know someone before you start to ask overly personal questions. It can definitely come of as way to pushy. This conversation is best left alone until the comfort level  of your relationship dictate its.

When Do You Want To Have Kids?

You may as well put your coat right back on, because this date is over. The “kid”question is probably the most invasive question you can ask on a first date. Someone’s position on having children is not dinner conversation, let alone a talk to have on your first date. This is the first date, you want to keep the conversation light and not too deep. This will definitely put pressure on your date, and he will probably never call you for a second date.

Last but not the least, don’t ask if you are looking fat or ugly as it will create tension between you two. Avoid these embarrassing questions during first date to enjoy an evening of pleasure without getting jittery or having butterflies in your stomach.

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First Dating Tip: How To Have Fun On A Big Date

March 11, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Okay, the guy you’ve been crushing on forever just called and asked you out. You want the night to be perfect.

Follow these first dating tips to have a wonderful, safe time.

First Dating Tip #1: Clarify the Details

When you hear the words “big date,” you may be thinking formal gowns and tuxedos. Your guy may be thinking dinner and a movie. So clarify what you’re going to do and what kind of dress code is expected.

First Dating Tip #2: It’s All in the Attitude

Many girls would do anything to snag that first date, even agree to go rock climbing when their idea of a hard workout is changing the channel on the television set. These dates often end with everyone in a bad mood. If you’ve agreed to an activity you don’t really like, be a good sport about it. You might have fun. At the very least, you can get to a second date by saying, “Next time we’ll have to try something I’m good at. ”

First Dating Tip #3: Communicate

Girls tend to get chatty when they’re nervous; guys tend to clam up. Girls usually spill their deepest secrets in fifteen seconds or less; guys may never spill them at all. On the first date, keep the conversation light. Try to make sure you each do about 50% of the talking. If he’s playing the strong, silent type, try to get him speaking by asking about his interests. Use open ended questions. “Did you like the movie?” can be answered with a yes or a no. “What did you like best about the movie?” requires a little more speech.

First Dating Tip #4: Stay Sober

Sure, alcohol lubricates the tongue, but a lubricated tongue can say things that make you want to curl up and die when you think back on them the next morning. More importantly, being sober can keep you safe. Up to 90% of date rapes occur when one or more parties have been drinking.

First Dating Tip #5: Follow Up

If you had a nice time, do something the next day to let the guy know. E-mail him, text message him, phone him, or send him a nice note. Thank him for a nice time and suggest another activity you could do together. (For instance: “Loved watching the football game with you. Are you up for basketball next week?”) Guys often aren’t sure what to do after a first date, and this kind of follow up points him in the right direction.

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5 Powerful First Date Tips for Men

March 4, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

After talking to a woman and getting to know her on the phone, it’s time to set up your first date. But what actions should you take on the first date which can ensure future dates. By now, you’re probably wondering what you should say and where to take her. Perhaps, you might even entertain the thought of how to get her back to your place for a more intimate encounter. In the next few paragraphs I’ll show you a few tips that’ll help you have an awesome first date. Tip #1- Remove all expectations and worries Probably the biggest problem which guys face on their first date is getting too worked up about being perfect. While it’s important to make a good impression, you shouldn’t put too much emphasis on say or doing the right thing. An easy way to do this is to remove all expectations about any outcome. If it goes badly, then the only thing you’ve wasted is a little time and money. But if you have a great time, then you might find a great woman to take on future dates. Tip #2- Limit your time One big mistake that many guys make is to plan out this extravagant event for the first date. When you first meet a woman, you’re using the time to qualify her as someone who might want to date in the future. The best way to do this is to meet her for coffee or a drink. That way, you haven’t wasted too much of your resources on a woman who’s not worth dating. Tip #3- Be in control and plan out the date Women are attracted to guys who are in control of their lives and make decisions. If you take the initiative and plan out your event, then you’ll come across as more attractive. In addition, by telling her where you’re going, you will be able to go to a place of your choosing and limit your time like I described in tip #2. Tip #4- Have fun and flirt The secret to having a great date is to build rapport and attraction. When you’re out with her, this should be your first concern. If there is not attraction between the two of you, the date will go nowhere. So it’s important to have a little fun and flirt with her. This basically means that you look for every opportunity to tease her and bring sexual innuendo into the conversation. One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heard is from David DeAngelo of ‘Double Your Dating’. He simply states you should treat all women your dating as a bratty little sister. If you can trip her up and tease her this way, you’ll come across as more attractive. Tip #5- Know when to break the rules The previous four rules aren’t set in stone. For instance, if the date is going well and you think you might end up sleeping with her that night, then you should forget about limiting your time. Just use these tips as you see fit and break them when they conflict with something that’s working for you. If you pay attention to these five tips, you’ll end up having a lot more fun and excitement on your first dates. As a result, you’ll discover it’ll be a lot easier to build attraction and rapport with every women you date.

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Understanding Fast Weight Loss: Exercise or Diet First?

March 2, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment


If you’re looking for fast weight loss through exercise, you may not find it. While incorporating exercise into your lifestyle is a great way to lose weight and keep it off over the long term, it takes time for exercise to change your body in the ways that stimulate fat loss. Over time, exercise will increase your muscle mass and will speed up your metabolism-both ways to help you lose weight, but not immediate changes. Diet changes can actually cause the metabolism to change more rapidly. As a matter of instinct, the body usually reacts quickly to changes in the amount of food you consume, and changes your metabolism. This reaction was designed by evolution to insure that when our ancestors couldn’t find food, the body would conserve energy so that they didn’t starve. On the other hand, when we found food and ate it quickly, the body would start burning calories faster to give us more energy to go back out and hunt again!In modern times, most of us aren’t facing food shortage problems. But we can use this evolutionary mechanism to accelerate our weight loss faster than almost any other method. A scientifically designed technique called calorie cycling is the most effective way to do it, by varying the sizes of the meals you eat. You don’t have to restrict yourself to a bunch of foods you don’t like to accomplish it, either-for the most part, the same foods you eat every day can be incorporated into a calorie cycling diet. The best calorie cycling solution on the market is the FatLoss4Idiots diet. FatLoss4Idiots allows you to create custom meal plans based on the foods you like, and structures your meals around calorie cycling principles so that they cause you to lose weight. I recently posted a FatLoss4Idiots review to my dieting advice Web site and the response has been phenomenal. People are losing 9 pounds in 11 days as the program advertises, or more! FatLoss4Idiots is worth taking a look at for anyone whose goal is fast weight loss-exercise or no.

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5 First Date Tips For Building Instant Attraction

February 28, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

How do you handle yourself on the first date? This is an important question which a lot of guys ask! They like a woman and want to make a great first impression, but they don’t know how to act when they’re on this first date. Well if you’re one of these guys, have no fear! In this article, I’ll reveal 5 simple dating tips that’ll ensure you build attraction and make an incredible impression on her. First Date Tip #1- Remove your worries and expectations The biggest problem you’ll face on your first date is worrying too much about being perfect. While you want to make a great impression, you shouldn’t worry so much about what to say or how. A simple solution is to not worry about the outcome of the date. By relaxing and not working yourself up, you’ll come across as confident. Just remember that if the date goes badly, the only thing you’ve wasted is some money and time. First Date Tip #2- Limit your time during the date Another mistake you could make is plan out an extravagant and fancy event for the your date. The goal of the date is to qualify each other for a future relationship. So at first, you’re not sure if this woman will be somebody you want to be around for 2+ hours. Instead of going for a fancy date, you should meet her for coffee or a few drinks. That way, you can have a quick exit strategy if it’s not going well. First Date Tip #3- Be in control of the date Women love guys who are decisive and confident. By taking the initiative and planning out your first date, you’ll show a positive quality to her. Furthermore, by controlling the date, you’ll be able to choose an environment of your choosing. First Date Tip #4- Flirt with your date Now dates aren’t always about exit strategies and qualifying each other. Most of the time it’s about having fun! The secret to a great first date is building rapport and attraction. When you’re on your date, you should have fun and flirt with her. If she is not attracted to you, then it’ll be hard to build anything. So it’s important make sure your having fun and flirting with her. First Date Tip #5- Know when you can break the rules The previous four tips aren’t carved in stone. There will be times when you should know to break them. For instance if the date is going well and you think sex is a possibility, then you shouldn’t worry about limiting your time. All you need to do is use these tips as a guideline and know when to break them. By adhering to these 5 first date tips, you’ll have a lot of fun and excitement with women. As a result, you’ll find that it’s easy to build attraction and rapport with each of these women.

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Access Free Dating Tips for Your First Date

February 20, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Dating is an art like any other and requires numerous skills in order to survive and be on top of the game. Dating continues to become more complex and more confusing every day. No wonder web browsing has become so popular with single people trying to solicit for free dating tips.

First impressions matter a lot and being a keen listener and an attentive person with your date earns you good marks. This means that you should at all costs avoid distractions on your first date. Chatting away on your phone while with your date is disastrous. It interrupts the smooth flow of information and the interaction keeps on getting hitches. What about some kissing tips? You never know what might happen.

The progress of a relationship depends on the outcome of the first date. This shows the importance of first date tips. They are your tools of trade. Planning your date in advance is a cardinal tip that separates you from the rest of the pack. Carefully organize the program of the date days before the meeting. Avoid awkward last minute questions like “where should we meet?”. It is among the free dating tips for first date to be able to portray yourself as a focused person when you have everything laid down expertly including the venue and the time.

Your date will know you as an exceptional person with such a simple act like showing serious thought about the date. Make sure you leave room for her to make suggestions. What counts is the way you say and put it. Have a good sense of humor and crack jokes with her. She will have a permanent imprint of the most interesting person she has ever laid eyes upon especially if are well armed with some kissing tips.

If you score highly on your first date, chances are high you may want a kiss. However, you don’t want it to appear hurried or forced otherwise your date might take flight. It is possible to kiss on a first date.

Here is one of the free dating tips of all times. It is called the “sexy photo routine”. It is a playful procedure which only requires a digital camera. It gives you a chance to mock her about her posing style. Act business-like, the photographer, but with humor in it. Challenge her to get into a very sexy pose but every time say it is not good enough. Offer your help, assume the role of a professional photographer. Start moving her into position after studying her figure. Move her legs and arms physically into the position you want. Brush your arm accidentally on her breast. You are a photographer doing his business. Keep this playful and fruity. If you are in private it is possible to apply the kissing tips you know.

The atmosphere can turn husky and lead to kissing. With women emancipation in the offing, dating has thrown many single men off-balance. They are no longer sure what is actually expected of them in a date scene. Acting in fear of retribution, being offended or rejected by a potential date, conventional rules of the dating game are not observed.

No one would decline to be given the right kind of treatment on a first date and a woman is entitled to one. But when men start behaving awkwardly, It confuses the ladies. No wonder many women today complain of the scarcity and shortage of eligible men. Get some free dating tips including some kissing tips and join the few dating masters.

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What is a good first communication after guided communication is complete on eharmony?

February 9, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

What are some good first communications after guided communication is complete on eHarmony?

This is something that many struggle with after they no longer have guided communication and can be the breaking point for some. If you are worried you will be unable to keep the communication going smoothly it is time that you dig a little deeper.

When you are involved with people that you have common interests with it can be much easier to hold a conversation going. Try inputting interests into the conversations. You will be more likely to continue a conversation this way then trying to talk about something the other party has no knowledge about.

Communication is key to a successful relationship. You will need to develop great communication skills throughout every situation to keep things running smoothly. When you are done your guided communication with eHarmony make sure that you take the time to get to know the person still that you are interested in.

Even though you are not going through guided communication anymore doesn’t mean you can’t keep trying. Everything is possible if you put the effort.

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