Hair, check. Make up, check. Sniff, check. Mirror , check. Breath, check, not to mention..”Do I look fat in these pants?”. That’s all running through a girls head when she sets out on dating. For guys, it’s much simpler… Sweaty palms , check. Deodorant, check. Not to minimize what a guy has to go through, but in today’s society a guy doesn’t have all the pressure he once did. Early on before the days of the social independent girl, the going “dutch” on meals, or the girl who makes the first move, a guy had to suffer all the pressures of dating . For us girls, we just had the pressure of looking nice enough to get asked. Boy, have things changed.
Social Networking is What They Are Calling It…
In a time of Blackberry’s, iPads, iPhone’s and virtually every other form of technology, dating has become more of a science than every before. Given the ability now to scan the Internet for your perfect mate by punching in your personal preference and requirement and viola! Your e-match is ready. How does this even involve two people anymore I wonder? Instead of talking to one another to find out likes and dislikes, these are stipulations that have be preloaded into your dating search engine. What ever happened to engaging someone in conversation? This dating scene is relatively easy for both genders as it becomes a catalogue of contestants.
Let’s Do it The Old Fashion Way…
There is a wonderful thing called chemistry. Two people must interact to see if it exists between. No avatars, virtual tours or websites. A good old fashion date. Now generally the anxiety here lies on the girl. Girls put much thought and effort into their appearance. With today’s standards, the bar is set pretty high so most girls do their best to live up to the expectation. This can be fraught with anxiety overload looking for the perfect outfit. Girls want to say they are fun without being stupid, intelligent without being snobby, and sexy without saying “I’m easy”. Trying to get that across from a top and some pants can be down right stressful. We haven’t even touched on hair and make up yet! Meanwhile, does a guy put that much thought into his appearance? Most guys take care of the general hygene and beyond that are not to effected.
If I Say Black Will You Say White?
Where is it easier between guys and girls? It could be in the conversation. Do opposites truly attract, or will you be at odds the whole date because you cannot agree? In this respect it would easier for guy, simply because of one fine point. Girls tend to over think everything while guys take a more laid back approach. This is all to true when dating and can be very confusing for any girl since girls generally operate around details while guys operate in the “big picture” mind set.
Dating is often tough enough without the strangle hold of a match making website telling you that for all intent and purpose the two of you should be compatible. Sometime even though it appears one way, it could definitely be the other. Guys and girls alike have many hurdles from which they must rise from in order to find that someone to share their time with.
