Soul mate. That’s what finding that special someone is. It’s about finding the person who completes you. For some it can take a life time to find, for others it seems to happen early on. How can you know if that person is the one?
Here Fishy Fishy….
Have you ever heard the term “there’s plenty more fish in the sea?” Well surely after you broken up with someone, that’s the speech that was given. There is some truth to it. How many people have to be considered before you establish the “one”? There is always the old saying, “you have to test drive a few cars, before you bring one home”. Does this apply to relationships? It could be that you need to date a wide variety of personality types before you decide to get serious with someone. While this may be outside some peoples comfort zone, it might help with your relationship later on, giving you a sense of confidence in the person you have chosen to be with.
Slow and Steady Wins the Race….
A lasting relationship begins with a solid foundation. A friendship can be the glue that holds your relationship together. You will find that “friendship” after a lengthy period of serious commitment. Long after the “newness” of the relationship wears off there will be a change in your relationship. This change will determine if the longevity of your relationship can get you to the alter. Taking a relationship slow allows the couple to find if the initial chemistry which sparked the romance, has some staying power. Finding out who a person is takes some time, some patience and some trust. All of these things are not gained over night they take time to establish. The curves that life can throw your way can show what and how you act like as a couple. This alone can be a tell tale sign of where your relationship is headed.
Jump Jump!
Closing your eyes and jumping into a relationship that heads straight to the alter could have an expected or unexpected outcome. If racing to alter finds you blissfully happy without consequence you could find yourself with one amazing story to tell the grand kids. On the other hand, plunging into marriage based on a whirl wind romance with the only chemistry being in bedroom could land you directly into divorce court three months later. There are the odd couple who know instantly that they are meant for each other, or there are those who subscribe to “true love”.
In the end there are no sure fire ways to know if your relationship will go the distance, so the best you can do is trust your heart and your head.
