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Maintaining Your Long Distance Relationship

March 15, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Long distance relationships and some helpful tips to get through the tough times of being so far away from a loved one.

If your in a Long Distance relationship or thinking about entering one here is all the help you will need to make sure that your relationship stands the test of time.

With all the high tech advances going on in the word today, long distance love is actually starting to work. There are loads of various online companies with free software that will keep you in very close contact with anyone any where in the world, Such as:

Skype, Skype is a computer program that can be used to make free voice calls over the Internet to anyone else who is also using Skype. It’s free and considered easy to download and use, and works with most computers. Once you download, register and install the software, you’ll need to plug in a headset, speakers or USB phone to start using Skype.

MSN Messenger, MSN Messenger is another source similar to skype and only its more personalized so that you only chat with the people you invite into your system. MSN Messenger also offers web cam viewing and live video all you have to do is download and add the email addresses of the people you wish to communicate with. Yahoo also has a version of this kind of software, I have used all three from time to time and find that for broadband users that Skype is the easiest and the best quality.

If you’re in a long distance relationship, and for the purpose of this article I am going to example a relationship of 2 people on other sides of the world to each other. Send an email so that your partner wakes up to you first thing in the mornings. It’s always nice to wake up to a loving thought in the morning.

Mobile phones are expensive to use and not everyone has the money to talk on them every night but send an SMS message from time to time, let your partner know that you always have them on your mind.

Time differences are a hazard but they can also make you look like a superstar. Every women loves waking up to a romantic poem sent to her phone when she was asleep or even an email.

If you’re just starting a long distance relationship learn all the important dates and write them down like birthdays etc. . Dating someone on the other side of the world does not mean they don’t get older.

If your doing something special yourself make sure you take a few pictures and send them to your partner they will appreciate seeing your face. And again will conform in their mind that they are important to you.

The more you can make your partner feel like they are only living just down the road from you the better chances you have of making your new relationship work. Its hard being so far away from someone you love but it’s not impossible. Use technology to its fullest and even send each other small gifts through the post office. The more personal things seem for both of you the more your going to succeed.

Long distance relationships do work and with today’s technologies available for free. Seeing someone face to face is as easy as turning on your computer and saying hello. Download a couple of the programs I have suggested, you want be disappointed it’s free easy and they all come with great help instructions.

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Long Distance Relationships – Who Pays for What?

March 10, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Long distance relationships are inherently expensive. You have an unnaturally high phone/communication bill, and there’s a large amount of (often expensive) traveling involved. So naturally, the question may arise: Which partner has to take the financial burden?

If you’re both well-off and in successful careers, then the question becomes irrelevant, but what happens when, e. g. one partner is still studying while the other one is working. Or one partner is in a high paying job, and the other is in a lower paid job. Plane tickets, etc. will cost the same both ways, so it doesn’t have to do with which partner goes to visit which.

Let’s take the scenarios one at a time.

Both highly paid

I don’t really see a problem there. If you sort of go 50/50 with your expenses, then there’s no need to worry. Money really isn’t that important at all.

Both underpaid or studying

If you’re both in equally tough situations, then you should probably still help each other out by going 50/50. It’s up to you to decide which partner will be traveling, etc. but it doesn’t really make a difference does it? If your partner comes to visit you, you also gain from it, therefore you’re equal.

One partner is paid less, or still studying

This is the situation my wife and I were in, even before we were married. I went to work straight after leaving university. She still stayed on for another 3 years, the last year of which we were married. After getting married, obviously our expenses were all shared, so the last year can be ruled out. In our case, it was a no-brainer. I went to visit her as often as I could, and gladly paid for my own traveling expenses, or when she came to visit me, I paid for her expenses. I often joke with my wife by saying I could have been a much wealthier person if it wasn’t for the long distance relationship.

Now why do you think I did that? (pay the expenses, not make the joke). Long before we were engaged, we knew that we were going to get married eventually, so my money was her money was my money anyway. She couldn’t pay, because she just didn’t have the money. She could of course pay out of her student loan, but that would have been silly. Once we got married, we started paying off her student loans together, so if she paid out of her student loans, it would have been our money anyway – plus interest.

Where is your relationship going?

So what advice can I actually give you? If you feel that you are definitely going to get married and that it’s just a matter of time, you should consider sharing your expenses in a way that is mutually beneficial.

So what if you’re not convinced that you’re going to get married? Well, you can’t just decide to get married instantly. That would be irresponsible, as there are certain character traits that do only come up after you’ve been in a relationship for a while. In that case, I suggest first focusing on your relationship itself before you start worrying about the financial side of it.

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Advice for a Successful Relationship You’ve Longed For

March 7, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Having a successful relationship is not usually something that simply happens by accident. Strong connections take time to build and both partners must put in some effort to maintain a healthy relationship and ensure its success. While there is work involved in keeping the relationship fresh and strong, there are some building blocks that many successful relationships may already have.

For example, you and your partner might already be very supportive of each other and know how to bolster each other’s confidence and self-esteem. You might be able to rely on each other for advice and for some cheering up after a hard day.
Or, maybe the two of you are able to laugh a lot and have a great time together, which is an important part of how to have successful relationship growth.

Perhaps the two of you are even really good at conflict resolution that is effective and free of tears and unnecessary digs at the other’s expense. Since conflict is part of any couple’s relationship, knowing how to keep arguments in check is definitely an important part of how to have a successful relationship.

In my mind, these are certainly things that help to make relationships successful and are the ingredients for stability and a long-lasting commitment. Of course, even if you already have these traits well established within your relationship, there is always at least a bit of room for improving your relationship even more. And, while functioning well as a couple is an important part of your success, injecting a little fun and passion into the mix will make it even better.

If you have found yourself in a passion rut, or if you want to prevent that from happening, you have to make sure you fan those flames occasionally and that you two are taking time to have some fun together. Remember, after you have been together for awhile, familiarity can take over and leave passion in the dust. It is far too easy to fall into that rut of coming home from work, changing into your pajamas and relaxing in front of the television or with a book. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that, but you can’t let that happen every night.

If you are starting to find yourself having this end-of-the-day routine more often than not, or if seeing your bed gets you going with cozy thoughts of sleeping, rather than something a bit more romantic, you might want to consider implementing one or more of these simple tactics that will help you learn how to have a successful relationship.

How to Have a Successful Relationship Tip #1

One way how to have successful relationship growth and stability is to schedule a regular date night and make sure that you both stick to it. It doesn’t have to be every week, but a scheduled date night is important. Don’t let other responsibilities start creeping in and causing you to cancel or you will suddenly realize that your date nights are gone, regardless of the good intentions you had going in.

How to Have a Successful Relationship Tip #2

Partners in long-term relationships often get so comfortable that they start taking things for granted a bit too much. This leads to problems like rarely expressing their love to each other. We all like to hear that we are loved. So, make sure you tell your partner that you love him or her at least once every day. You can make it even more meaningful by adding in a hug or a kiss.

How to Have a Successful Relationship Tip #3

Vacation together without friends, kids or family members. Date nights are great, but the two of you also need extended time together to relax and reconnect. Nothing fits this need like a vacation. Remember, it doesn’t need to be an expensive, exotic location or a trip that involved an entire day of travel to reach your destination; you just need to find somewhere that you both will enjoy and that will allow you to spend time together with no one else around.

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Are long distance relationships ever really worth it?

March 6, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

I am in a long distance relationship right now, and let me tell you it’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. I understand that things have to be this way for now, my question to you though, is, what are your opinions on long distance relationships? I can’t go see my boyfriend until next year, because of transportational issues, and because of lack of expenses. He lives about 450 miles away.

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Now that EHarmony has been around for awhile, do their relationships do any better than traditional ones?

March 5, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Has anyone done any studies, particularly of couples who met through EHarmony and married? Are arranged marriages more or less successful than those of people who meet more randomly?

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Long Distance Relationships Success Through Good Management

March 4, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment


Any relationship should be special and meaningful for both the partners, whether it is long-distance or not. If there is love and trust between two individuals, it does not make a difference whether they are living together or separated from each other.
But it might be overwhelming at times when partners are faced with too many challenges and setbacks and cannot handle them alone, just because they are not spending their daily lives together. Some tips could be helpful for people who are going through tough separation periods.
Long distance relationships can actually enhance maturity, bonding and growth. You learn to be honest to each other and show respect and trust for each other. Since there is no day-to-day interaction with each other, each one’s thoughts are not communicated to each other for which there is no discussion and reflection.
The most important thing about long-distance relationships is to listen to each other in a caring manner. You must have implicit trust in your partner, and this can only be facilitated if there is total honesty in the partnership.
Each partner should voluntarily offer information and show empathy. Each one in the relationship should feel secure and be prompted to open up to each other. This is possible if each one shows what you are feeling and are reflecting about the relationship. For this you need to communicate with each other frequently and this is the core of building and maintaining any long-distance relationship.
If you are staying together it is possible to talk or check in with your partner at least once a day. Just this one-time talk can be a stabilizing force to a relationship. But when the partners are living away from each other, this force has to be established in different ways. Just pick up the phone and talk to your partner at least once a day, even if it is for a few minutes. This enables you to share details and updates about each other’s lives. Also, if you check in with each other, you can definitely look forward to something special during the day. And you can always make plans and discuss your next reunion.
Make your questions emotionally intimate and this will automatically strengthen the bond between each other, just showing how much you mean to each other. Talk openly about the relationship itself by asking questions about it, like how you are feeling about each other. Or whether any of you harbor any concerns or worries about the relationship.
You don’t have to restrict yourself to phoning in this day and age. Technology is a boon to long-distance relationships. Of course cell phones offer ‘free night and weekends’ plans, and on the whole telephoning has become cheaper and more convenient. Making use of a different technology like the email or text message could definitely come as a surprise and add a bit of spice to your long-distance relationship. Internet free greeting cards or letters via “snail mail” could be romantic and also a keepsake memento for times when you are both lonely and missing each other.
There are often misunderstandings, misinterpretations and hard feelings between the partners living apart from each other. But it is essential to maintain a sense of humor with your partner.
Understanding the partner and knowing each other well should nurture a healthy relationship. In the bargain you get to know, understand and accept your partner with the strengths and weaknesses as well as positive and negative qualities.

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Long Distance Relationships Made Successful Through Good Management

March 2, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

Any relationship should be special and meaningful for both the partners, whether it is long-distance or not. If there is love and trust between two individuals, it does not make a difference whether they are living together or separated from each other. But it might be overwhelming at times when partners are faced with too many challenges and setbacks and cannot handle them alone, just because they are not spending their daily lives together. Some tips could be helpful for people who are going through tough separation periods. Long distance relationships can actually enhance maturity, bonding and growth. You learn to be honest to each other and show respect and trust for each other. Since there is no day-to-day interaction with each other, each one’s thoughts are not communicated to each other for which there is no discussion and reflection. The most important thing about long-distance relationships is to listen to each other in a caring manner. You must have implicit trust in your partner, and this can only be facilitated if there is total honesty in the partnership. Each partner should voluntarily offer information and show empathy. Each one in the relationship should feel secure and be prompted to open up to each other. This is possible if each one shows what you are feeling and are reflecting about the relationship. For this you need to communicate with each other frequently and this is the core of building and maintaining any long-distance relationship. If you are staying together it is possible to talk or check in with your partner at least once a day. Just this one-time talk can be a stabilizing force to a relationship. But when the partners are living away from each other, this force has to be established in different ways. Just pick up the phone and talk to your partner at least once a day, even if it is for a few minutes. This enables you to share details and updates about each other’s lives. Also, if you check in with each other, you can definitely look forward to something special during the day. And you can always make plans and discuss your next reunion. Make your questions emotionally intimate and this will automatically strengthen the bond between each other, just showing how much you mean to each other. Talk openly about the relationship itself by asking questions about it, like how you are feeling about each other. Or whether any of you harbor any concerns or worries about the relationship. You don’t have to restrict yourself to phoning in this day and age. Technology is a boon to long-distance relationships. Of course cell phones offer ‘free night and weekends’ plans, and on the whole telephoning has become cheaper and more convenient. Making use of a different technology like the email or text message could definitely come as a surprise and add a bit of spice to your long-distance relationship. Internet free greeting cards or letters via “snail mail” could be romantic and also a keepsake memento for times when you are both lonely and missing each other. There are often misunderstandings, misinterpretations and hard feelings between the partners living apart from each other. But it is essential to maintain a sense of humor with your partner. Understanding the partner and knowing each other well should nurture a healthy relationship. In the bargain you get to know, understand and accept your partner with the strengths and weaknesses as well as positive and negative qualities.

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What are your thoughts on long distance relationships?

February 28, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment

What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Can you love the person you are in a long distance relationship in? Can they work?

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Can long distance relationships really work out?

February 26, 2010 By Karen Hiser 1 Comment

I like this guy, and he likes me. I know that I can be faithful, but I don’t know if I can trust him to be faithful. It’s not that I don’t trust him, it’s his ex-girlfriend and the way she is with him. I basically want to know if long distance relationships are worth the pain that I could possibly endure.

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Website Promoting Long-term Relationships

February 25, 2010 By Karen Hiser Leave a Comment


Dating is one of the most wonderful experiences in life. Many long lasting memories are from the first moments spent together with the love of your life. Great memories include summer walks in the park, a day at carnival or a Fourth of July picnic under the stars. Everyone should experience love. A world without love is an empty place. However, finding love can be an arduous task. Online dating is the new and fun way of finding a mate. Chemistry. com is one the leaders in the online dating industry and can help even the most helpless daters find a mate.

Chemistry. com is the sister site of the popular Match. com. Chemistry. com was actually founded by employees who work for Match. com as a long-term relationship oriented company. Chemistry. com is different than traditional dating sites in that its sole focus is to pair individuals looking for serious long-term relationships. The site does not discourage individuals looking for casual dating but those looking for that type of relationship will be disappointed by the number of people only interested in serious relationships.

The company’s matching system was founded by Dr. Helen Fisher who is a world renowned Anthropologist from Rutgers University who specializes in interpersonal attraction. Dr. Fisher’s matching system combines both hormonal- and personality-based matching techniques. Most other dating sites use only basic personality matching techniques such as an adventurous person matched with another adventurous person.

Dr. Fisher also developed 4 individual personality types and the neurotransmitter that is dominate in their brains. She speculates that these chemicals can better predict how well we respond to others in relationships. The 4 personality types are Explorer- dopamine, Negotiator- estrogen, Director- testosterone and Builder- serotonin.

At Chemistry. com, the matching process follows the scientific principals outlined by Dr. Fisher. Individuals first must fill out the personality profile which encompasses both personality type and hormonal type. Predictions and goals are then refined and tested until a complete profile of the individual can be ready for the matching stage.

At the matching stage the company will send 5 free matches based upon the results of the profile. The goal of the company is to aid in the process of in-person dates. Once you send or receive an email from an interested party, the company makes the daters follow a step-by-step communication process to see if there is a match. Chemistry. com bypasses the awkward introduction phase and breaks the ice for you. If there isn’t a match, the company will find why and give the individual feedback as to things they could change.

If both parties agree that there is chemistry then the system will facilitate a date. If the date doesn’t go well the matching system will update what went wrong to better make changes in the future. The matching system will change according to the dater’s feedback and personal preferences.

Chemistry. com is open to all sexual orientations unlike eHarmony. com. They will match up anyone of any age as well.

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