The day has finally arrived. You have anticipated this moment for as long as you can remember and now it is here. In doing so, you inadvertently have prepared yourself for another milestone. If you’ve recently gone from single to engaged congratulations and now it is time to prepare yourself for your new future. Being engaged can really put a lot of stress on a person. The expectation that arises from such a simple gesture can be overwhelming. Especially if you are beginning the planning for your wedding day.
Being engaged can promote a flurry emotions. Relax. First take the time to appreciate your new status in life. Let the term ”fiance” roll off your tongue a couple times until it sinks in. It really just means that your special someone has taken that next step in your relationship and is wanting to spend their life with you. It is a happy time that can always require a lot of transition to a new life. When you become engaged to somebody you are going to begin thinking more about your future and what you want to see happen in it.
Upon examining your new found social status there are some things you’ll want to think about including:
- Where you are going to live? His, yours, or somewhere new?
- When you are going to get married?
- Whether or not you want children? Well this may want to be established before the engagement, can be a “deal breaker”
- If this is what you truly want, is this someone you can say “forever ” too?
Now these may seem like large issues to tackle, but they are things you will truly want to think about and discuss with your partner. If you don’t have the same goals and wants it could cause some complications on your future together, so make sure you want the same things in life before you embark on a further journey together. Of course there is going to be some things you may both not agree on, but you can at least discuss them and come to a conclusion together.
Going from single to engaged can be quite an event. Even though you’ve been with your partner for a long time it could be a little shocking knowing that this is it, the last person you have a first date with, the last person you have a first kiss with. If knowing this provides you with a sense of comfort versus a sense of panic your off to a good start.If it is, congratulations you’ve entered the elite status of “engagement” and are on your way to married.
Marriage in its entirety is wonderful place in life to be. You are spending your days with that one person in the world you can’t live without and experiencing your lives together. Being engaged and preparing yourselves to become married will take a lot of effort and many bumps along the way, but it is something you will smile about down the road. While the wedding preparation may seem to be the only thing in focus, it should really be about both of you entering into a phase in your life. Do the wedding planning together, it’s part of your entrance into marriage. You are both transitioning from single life to engaged life, so be supportive of your partner by making decision together. It serves as a well laid foundation of the years to come.
