Lately, I hаνе noticed thіѕ trend w/ providing guests w/ children babysitters аt wedding receptions. Whаt аrе people rесkοn οf thіѕ?
Growing up, mу parents attended weddings. Bυt, I never wеnt. Mу parents сlаrіfіеd weddings wеrе nοt places fοr children. Now, I’m nοt talking аbουt having 3 οr 4 young ones. I’m having mу flower girl аnd mу ringbearer аt mу reception. I’m talking аbουt having 5 οr more. I”ve seen 10 kids аt a wedding before. It wаѕ tοο crazy. Bυt, οthеr thеn thаt. Nο children under thе age οf 15. Wе don’t hаνе аnу young kids іn ουr family. Bυt, mу Fi аnd I hаνе friends w/ children. Thеу аrе nοt invited.
Whеn mу parents attended weddings whеn I wаѕ young, a family member watched mе. Usually one οf mу aunts οr one οf mу grandparents. I wουld οftеn sleep over w/ mу cousins аnd hаνе a fun night.
I completly wουld know іf a parent declined b/c thеу dіd nοt hаνе a babysitter. Bυt, people getting upset b/c thеу feel thе bride ѕhουld
pay thе sitters tab? Thаt’s incorrect.
Thе way I see іt, іѕ thаt wedding invites аrе sent 6-8 weeks іn advance. Alѕο, mοѕt people know someone’s wedding date prior tο receiving thе invite.
I believe thаt proper time tο find a sitter аnd arrange a payment
Whу dο ѕοmе parents thing thеу HAVE tο bring thеіr children tο a wedding? Whу саn’t thеу realize thаt ѕοmе events (especially night weddings) аrе nοt fοr children?
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I am getting married in Feb and hving many children attend. The more the merrier. Why cant children go to weddings? I really havent heard of that i attended many as a child?? I just dont know why your friends and there children cant celebrate your pleased moment??
I had a preacher once who on the wedding invitation requested that “no small children were to attend”. No one who had children went to his wedding and no one was any worse for it. If you don’t want them ther just say it on the invitation. Make the age limit very clear though and stick to it cause if you let one peson come with their 2 year ancient you will end up with everyone bringing their kids cause you told one person yes.
I would never expect the bride to provide a babysitter for my children. If I received an “adults only” invitation, I would probably just choose to not attend.
Personally, I attended numerous weddings/receptions when I was growing up. They are some of my fondest memories of friends and family. We had a lot of children at our own wedding…probably close to 20. No one was disruptive during the ceremony and the reception was a ton of fun!
I have a daughter who just turned one and over the past year my husband and I have attended two weddings.. both without our daughter. Personally, I reckon very young children who might weep should stay at home. I reckon that during a ceremony, crying and screaming children are a distraction. I’ve never heard of having the bride pay for a babysitters tab… I reckon that anyone who requests that is out of their mind…
I would never go to a wedding that stated my children where not invited. I would also never question the bride to pay for babysitting!! That is just rediculous!! Parents who bring their children to weddings know we will not be staying there all night long! We go eat visit stay for a lil bit of the party and leave. One of the best things at weddings is watching all the lil kids dancing!!! Before you can get all the adults to break free who do you see out jumping around on the dance floors…children…they help get the dancing going. Plus it is fantastic to watch the bride or groom dancing with a lil one. You are getting married..this is a start of a family…not to say that all familys have children but most couples see their family complete with children. So I reckon children should go to weddings. Now if you have an unruley child that screams the whole time then you should get a babysitter and not take them. No parent wants to be rememberd as the person that brought the kid that wouldnt shut up and takes attention away from the whole wedding!! And those parents already know not to bring their child. But I have excellent children and I wouldn’t go to any wedding that told me I didn’t have the option to bring my children.
Well, personally I like seeing children at weddings! If I ever get married, I really want all the kids to go!
That said, everyone’s different, and if somebody chooses a child-free wedding, that is their right, and should be respected. I reckon the bride and groom paying for a babysitter is ridiculous, if someone has children it is up to them to either find a suitable babysitter or not attend something if children are not invited! And as you said, 8 weeks is plenty of time to arrange care for the kids. The only time I would say it’s appropriate for the bride to pay is if she’s going to get upset at someone for not attending if they can’t find/afford a babysitter. Then that would be up to her. Otherwise, no way!
I do not reckon the bride should pay for child care. But also I do not see anything incorrect with children going to weddings. I went to many weddings as a child. My daughters are 3 and have been to a few weddings, and were in 2 of them. I know that if my daughters are not invited a long with me I would not attend. But if you do not want children at your wedding then clearly state it on your invitation.
i reckon that kiddies at a wedding r a excellent thing cuz after you get married you kinda make babies so
every wedding i went to had kids of all ages at them
but the bride should NOT pay for any sitter
the only reason children should not go to a night wedd is cuz of drinking and babies and kids with (A) drinks r not a excellent mix
I was never allowed to attend weddings as a child either. I’ve never heard of people expecting the bride to provide a sitter. I’ve attended two weddings since my daughter was born, and got a sitter for each wedding, and cut out early. I agree with you that guests should respect the couple’s wishes, whether that be regarding children, attire, or whatever.
On the other hand, my friends are parents – their children are as much a part of my life as they are. These people are family to me, and I anticipate them all being a part of my wedding, kids and adults. I do not wish to place them in the quandary of having to find a sitter, just for me. It will be a family affair.
I guess it just depends on where a guests, and a couple’s, priorities are.
I’ve been working with kids for well over 12 years and all my friends have kids (in other words, I LOVE kids). But, I chose not to have children at my wedding and every single friend found their own babysitter and attended my wedding and stayed for the entirety of the reception. No one complained and certainly no one expected me to pay for a sitter (although I did place on my wedding website a link to KidsPlay, a drop-off babysitting service that was super-close to the site of my wedding and reception). You have a right to invite whomever you want and of course, you don’t need to place “no kids” on your invite. Just address the invitation to the adults! They’ll get it.