Wе wеrе talking tο ουr DJ last night, аnd hе ѕаіd thеу аrе done аt mοѕt weddings out here οn thе west coast, bυt nοt ѕο much back east. Iѕ thіѕ thе trend? Arе thеу pretty traditional, οr dο mοѕt guests rесkοn thеу аrе tacky?
I never knew whаt one wаѕ before – I haven’t bееn tο a wedding ѕіnсе I wаѕ small, ѕο thе DJ really hаd tο сlаrіfу іt tο mе (thіѕ іѕ whу I don’t know іf іt’s common οr nοt). Thе thουght seemed very tacky tο mе, bυt mу fiance аnd I tοld hіm wе′d discuss іt аnd lеt hіm know ουr сhοісе.
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Nooooo. But I’m on the East Coast where tacky is seriously frowned upon.
They are traditional in some families, but I didn’t have one. I’ve been at weddings that had the money dance and weddings that didn’t. I do reckon they are tacky, yes. I’m an East Coast-er, but I don’t reckon that has much to do with it. It is tacky everywhere.
I am from the East coast and we did not have one. I walked around with a money purse and if they wanted to they did. I would place an envelope gift box instead somewhere over by the cake, most people feel more comfortable giving money in a card.
I’m from the west coast and I didn’t do it at my wedding – nor do I know of anyone who has. I personally reckon it is tacky.
I’m on the East Coast and I’ve never seen a money dance at a wedding. So, no, we wouldn’t be having money. Personally, from what I know about them, they seem pretty rude.
Even IF I wanted one, it would be a serious violation of etiquette around here.
There will be no money dance at my wedding. In my family it is tradition to steal the bride.
They are really pretty traditional. I had the same concerns and questions when me and my husband were plotting out wedding, but my sister questioned one of her friends who is a wedding planner and she said that way more than half of the weddings she plotted the couples had done a money dance.. And most guest will delight in it very much and they have alot of fun with it. Don’t even worry about them thinking that it is tacky.
It’s a personal choice between you and your fiance to choose, based on your families traditions, likes and dislikes.
You will get countless answers on here saying don’t do it, it’s tacky (despise that word) etc..
Tacky, tacky, tacky.
Oh God…NO! Not only is it tacky, it’s low-class and selfish. I’m assuming your guests have brought you a gift/money as a congratulations…milking them for a bit more is rude. Haven’t you ever heard the talk at the tables when that is announced.
I had one at my first wedding. . .but then again his family is described by him as “redneck.” I would never call them that, but they don’t exactly have the same kind of manners and class that my family does. I’m really undecided about it at my next wedding. I honestly doubt I will do it though. Not because it’s tacky, but more because I dont’ want to have to dance with some people in my family or in his. There are other things I would much rather do during my reception.
Money dances are not in either my or my fiance’s cultural tradition. A money dance is appropriate ONLY if it is a long-standing tradition in one or both of your cultures, and your guests expect it (and will be disappointed if you don’t do it). It is extremely tacky to co-opt it out of greediness. If it hasn’t been done at nearly every wedding you’ve ever attended, then it’s not part of your culture, and it’s tacky and greedy for you to do it.
They are very common on the west coast I have gone to many weddings in CA, NV & WA and I would say 80% of them did it. It’s extra money for the honeymoon!
My family, including my 17 & 18 year ancient daughters get
involved.
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I’ve never been to a wedding that had a money dance. I’m in the south. I wouldn’t not have one, I’d feel like I was begging and putting my guests in an awkward situation.
We are it is a tradition that we dance with our guest to a special song! They tell us a piece of advice and have a special moment which we also get a fantastic picture for our album!
Our family place there cards of best wishes in the bride bag or in groom pocket! It not exactly a $$ dance it a special dance for our guest, and a fantastic shot for a photo!
It called the honeymoon dance…..So you give advice to the couple something to talk about on the way to there honeymoon!
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f people reckon it is tacky they wont get a photo, and don’t have to participate! I personally always get up and dance sometimes with both the groom and bride!
My fiance and I are DEFINITELY doing this at our wedding. We live in Southern California, and have quite literally NEVER gone to a wedding where there wasn’t one. I bring cash to weddings expecting it. So far as I know, it is the most alone time you will get with most of your guests individually. Your guests know that and that is why most will choose to have a quick dance with you two! It’s not selfish or tacky, it’s all in excellent fun. Ignore the snobs who say otherwise.
I know it was a tradition, but today, I reckon it is tacky….I am sure you can come up with a better fun dance then getting people to reach in their pockets…Plus you dont want to be standing up there waiting for someone to pay for a dance…..Kinda lik prostitution. Give a gorgeous dance for like………
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We aren’t having one, but I went to a lot growing up.
People who reckon they are tacky don’t know the cultural tradition they came from…in places like Spain or Mexico, people do the money dance, but may not give gifts.
In my family and in my fiances it is extremely traditional and we’re here in the mid-west. Its usually done to help give a couple just starting out a few bucks to help them on their feet, pay some bills, have a fantastic time on their honeymoon, etc.
I lot of people on here bash them and say they’re tacky but I’m still having one. They’re a lot of fun b/c sometimes people will cut in if they pay more than a dollar. I’ve seen some couples make serious money with theres. If you want to have one than have one if you dont then dont. But do not care what people on here reckon about it.
in our family we expect the dollar dance at weddings. so more than likely we will have one. on my side of the family they all like to dance so it will also be fun.
The dollar dance is very common in my area, but we’ve chose not to do it. We feel as though people have sacrificed enough… traveling distances, buying gifts, devoting their weekend to us etc. But, our photographer has tried to talk us into it because he feels as though it’s a wonderful opportunity to have one-on-one time with the guests and it’s a fantastic time for pictures. BUT, we are holding strong and not giving in to his wishes. We both feel as though people have given us enough by coming to share our day with us.
Do what you feel excellent about… it can certainly be looked at two different ways.
Yes, we had one at our wedding. There is nothing tacky about following traditions within one’s culture.
I live in Pennsylvania, and they’re done at every wedding I ever attended. I don’t know what he’s talking about. We didn’t have one at ours–I don’t reckon they’re tacky, just traditional in my world. I still didn’t do one–I’m not opposed to them, it just was not the wa we did our wedding. I didn’t want every second of my reception to be scripted with things I HAD to do.
we did not. i have not been to many weddings that had one.
I’m on the east coast and in my family you aren’t considered married if you don’t have a the dollar polka dance.
I am on the eastern part of the country. Every wedding I have been to has had a money dance. It’s not tacky. It’s mostly tradition. We are going to do it at our wedding. Not only that, the guests are encouraged to give advice during that dance. Hey, you can make a few extra bucks for the honeymoon. Like I said, certainly not tacky. A lot of people expect there to be a money dance, but not all participate. It’s all in excellent fun.
i live in southern indiana and it is done a lot! they even have cute white money bags to buy to hold the money. it is classic and not tacky,. it sometimes turns out really fun! especially when the drunk guy guests dance with your new hubby! my brother and his wife got nearly 500 dollars when they had their wedding from this!
LMAO!!! Okay so all you people who are from the East Coast, never seen this and find it tacky what states are you in? I’m in Maine…here it is really quite common to not only have a money dance but have…brace yourself a CASH BAR!!!
So common that out of the 30 weddings I have ever been to, only 2 didn’t have the money dance and I remember going home that night and my mom commenting that they didn’t have a dollar dance. I remember being maid of honor in one wedding and the couple got $500 during this!
God this people on here are very uptight. I live on east coast, and every wedding I have been to, there has been a “dollar dance” with the bride and groom. I do not reckon it is tacky, and you are not milking the crowd…..for a dollar? please
it’s all about having FUN, and laughing, and enjoying your time with the guest.
If a guest is offended, then they have the choice to sit there and watch
At my best friends wedding, they did the dollar dance. After about 2 minutes, the guys were dancing with the groom, and all the girlfriends of the bride were dancing with her. It was alot of fun
I was married in october and we had one. I wasnt sure about it before hand but it was actualy fun. It realy got everyone up and dancing and I liked it because I got a few minuetes one on one with a lot of people. So its just up to you. I was married in california and it was fine no one thought it was tacky
I’ve been to both kinds of weddings and frankly, I’ve never even heard of anyone commenting, positively or negatively, on this.
I also don’t find it to be a “low class” practice. At one wedding I went to, and the family was very well off, they did have the money dance. So all you elitists out there, just cool down.
At the end of the day, it’s about what you and your fiance want to do, there will always be at least one person making some kind of comment on some choice or other that you make, so don’t drive yourself crazy. Frankly, anyone who’s at a wedding judging a newly married couple on something so trivial is “tacky.”
No. I reckon they are only acceptable if it’s TRULY an ethnic/cultural tradition.
Since you didn’t even know what one was, do not have one at our wedding.
I’m from the east coast – I’m also of Polish descent (where this is *allegedly* a prevalent practice) – and I have never attended a wedding nor would I have my own wedding with a money dance.
It comes across as tasteless, tacky and a really pathetic way to part your guests from their money.