Whу аrе ѕο many people having two receptions – - one wіth јυѕt cake/snacks & beverages аnd another wіth limited # οf guests fοr a full dinner?
I’ve heard οf receptions іn two locations whеn family іѕ really spread out, bυt thіѕ іѕ a nеw one tο mе аnd јυѕt screams οf poor etiquette.
If уου саn bυу ѕοmе people dinner, whу аrе уου inviting οthеr people tο a limited reception?
It seems cheap аnd іf I еνеr found out I wаѕ invited tο a wedding lіkе thаt, I’d bе ticked οff аt thе couple. Gο аll οr nothing – - don’t treat ѕοmе people lіkе a 2nd class guest nοt worthy οf a meal.
If уου саn’t afford thе meal fοr everyone, thеn don’t offer іt tο anyone – hаνе thе cake & punch reception аnd thats іt.
Whаt іѕ thе logic іn thіѕ? And whеrе аrе people getting thіѕ thουght frοm? And whу οn earth dο thеу rесkοn іt іѕ OK?
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seems greedy to me. they want to invite less vital people to the cake/snacks one and vital people to the dinner but in the end they get gifts from all!
Its cheaper and more intamit having a small dinner with those who are close to you and then having everyone you want to celebrate with you at the less expensive party. A bit on the poor etiquette side but sometime you have to be creative with a budget!
I don’t reckon this is a trend at all. I reckon it’s some people’s way of getting around throwing an actual reception without spending money AND still getting the same number of presents.
Like you, I find it a breach of etiquette and rude and a bit tacky. I’d be pissed too if I found out I was in this kind of a situation. In theory, it may sound like a excellent thought but I reckon that in reality it makes the couple come off as a huge cheap and greedy.
I completely agree. People reckon it’s a excellent way to have everybody there that they want there, even if they can’t afford it but they don’t realize how rude their being. If you can only afford dinner for 50 guests only invite 50 guests. People will know if you have a limited guest list. People will not know why you chose to give other people a full meal and you only get chips and soda.
I agree. Do the best within your means. If that means inviting less people in order to provide dinner for everyone, so be it. Or if that means a mid-afternoon wedding with cake & punch, thats what it is.
The “two sets of invitations” really bother me. Why do people do it? Its just another classic example of the bride & groom wanting to have their cake and eat it too.
You cant have alcohol then question people to pay for it.
You cant have a huge wedding but only provide for a few select guests.
Again, you cant have your cake and eat it too.
Really, I agree with you. I am SO against this new trend of having multiple receptions, unless it’s for a very excellent reason, like maybe if you have family that lives in another state or country and they can’t make it to the actual wedding, but you want to celebrate with them when you come visit. But, a lot of my engaged friends are just going around having a couple receptions for different bunches of people, right in our same town. To me it seems like a poor-taste gift-grab, more than anything else. I agree- if you can’t afford to feed everyone the fancy sit-down dinner, then go for something cheaper that everyone can come to. It seems very rude to really have an “A-list” reception, with all the trimmings, for a small, select number of people, then throw a “B-list” one with cheaper food for the people who apparently mean less to you. I am having one reception and one reception only. It is at a Mexican restaurant, we are having a fun buffet-style dinner and a bar complete with a margarita machine, and everyone will have a excellent time. And if it’s not fancy enough for someone, well, that’s too terrible. It was either do a less-expensive buffet for everyone or just elope at the JOP, because it wasn’t in my budget to feed everyone steak and lobster, and I’m certainly not singling out only the “really vital” people for another, fancier celebration.