I’m οnlу аn attendee tο a formal garden wedding.Stаrtѕ аt 8am next month. Motif іѕ yellow
Thе family іѕ quite hυgе аnd conservative, thе bride іѕ a cousin οf mу bf thаt’s nοt even here аnd currently working abroad (mу bf thаt іѕ). I’m nοt thаt close tο thе bride (I don’t even know thе groom)
I hаνе a small black dress thаt goes along w/ everything,bυt im tοld nοt tο wear black. I’m nοt exactly sure whаt tο wear.
I read somewhere thаt іf іt’s a morning wedding one ѕhουld wear small light dresses, bυt іf іtѕ аn afternoon wedding a more formal, long evening οr one wουld normally wear during a night out wουld bе okay.Bυt I wаѕ јυѕt tοld thаt thіѕ wουld bе a “formal” garden wedding.Sο I’m nοt really sure
I’m a plus sized woman аnd іtѕ hard tο look clothes…
Whаt dress styles wουld уου recommend fοr a plus size woman? I hаνе a hυgе bust аnd a hυgе belly bυt slender аnd shapely legs.
Whаt gift wουld bе best? I wаѕ thinking еіthеr a GC, a towel set οr a vase?
Thanks!
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try an a-line dress that comes to the knees, u don’t want to out-shine the bride right? and find something that will be the right color, since u were told not to wear black.
usually just evening weddings require a long dress, but since the invite says “formal” i would take that to mean long. but, not everyone is considerate of the bride’s wishes (like caring enough to post online), so i’m sure there will be guests wearing many different things- small/long, colorful/black, so i wouldn’t stress too much. i would try to stay away from white and black for this wedding. i don’t know where you live, but a longer dress with some color and a sweater seems appropriate. not a summer dress, but i wouldn’t go so far as to wear a dress with beading (light beading okay) or glitter either- since it’s 8am. something like a bridesmaidsy looking dress in a solid color- blue or green. like a daytime prom
lol does that happen anywhere? excellent luck!
My Tips on what to wear:
-No black, cream or white
-I would go for something knee or tea length, knee since you have nice legs.
-the skirt should be full as too balance out your top section
Gift:
GC woud be best I reckon, and then towel set (perhaps monogrammed?).
A long is much better
The proper attire for a formal garden wedding would be comfortable semi-formal. Did you see Pretty Woman? The dress Julia Robert’s character wore to the polo match would be the perfect type of outfit. A nice dress (not black or white) knee or just below the knee length with a small sweater and heels (low heels are fine).
As far as the gift, the gift card would probably be best, second choice would be the towel set.
Have Fun!
P.S. I feel your pain in finding a dress, I have the same issues. I have excellent luck at Catherine’s and have also had pretty excellent luck at Macy’s. I really got my wedding dress (it wasn’t a REAL wedding dress, but the dress I wore for my wedding) at Macy’s.
a small or t length dress would be appropriate. A modest (high enough in the back and rounded back enough at the sides of the breast) halter top perhaps paired with a light 3/4 length sweater could be appropriate.
as for the gift, refer to your registry and get what is appropriate for you/ your hb’s budget.
Who told you not to wear black? The bride? The bride’s mother? The groom? What about a yellow jacket over a black dress?
I have the same shape you do & wore a knee-length black skirt & pastel/bright print jacket with white blouse & pearls to a wedding. I still use that pic. Thank God I got Mom’s fantastic legs!!
For gifts, you could always combine gift cards with a towel set, or place a gift card in the vase. I do that often now since cards seem to get separated from packages and I get more & more “thank you for the [nondescript] gift” letters. I’d rather someone remember it was me who gave them the dozen spatulas or pic frames or knives or VCR or whatever.
Seven years after my own wedding, I still try to thank people in person & work it into the conversation that “I really like the mixer that you gave us. It’s just the neatest thing in my kitchen!”
Best of luck with the outfit. Question the bride for help with outfits, if you end up completely stumped, maybe there’s a real-sized woman in her family wearing something similar to you.
Just below the knee should get you by and in a nice color, they are right now black. I’m a huge fan of pant suits for formal affairs (also a huge girl), but go with your gut as long as you feel pretty and aren’t sporting a mini skirt I’m sure you will be fine.
As for the gift, try to find out where they are registered, if not I’d say cash/card is the way to go. Since you aren’t that close to either memeber you might have a harder time trying to peg down a gift in their taste, money is a safe option;
I went into my local Catherines not only are they ancient lady looking they are really expensive. I do all of my shopping at Fashion Bug and Cato. Both have appropriate clothing and fantastic plus sizes. I dont what your size as it was not indicated so kind of hard to indicate. Now October Formal Garden I would go with a darker color like a dark rose,raspberry or a coffee color. Yellow is a color you want to stay away from.
here are links to a couple gorgeous dresses:
http://www.therosedress.com/dresses/ig/310311/f.jpg
http://www.igigi.com/shop/index.cfm?fuseaction=product.show¤tpage=3&Product_ID=508&fromcat=1&disptype=3
http://www.igigi.com/sidepages/popups/dsp_largeimage_mag.cfm?
im=300512L.jpg&prodsku=300512&type=new&prodname=Shimmering Dress with Shawl in Liquid Copper
http://www.igigi.com/sidepages/popups/dsp_largeimage_mag.cfm?
im=31720RSEL.jpg&prodsku=31720RSE&type=new&prodname=Chloe%20Lace%20Gown%20in%20Rose
http://www.igigi.com/sidepages/popups/dsp_largeimage_mag.cfm?
im=31710RSEL.jpg&prodsku=31710RSE&type=new&prodname=Gloria%20Lace%20Gown%20in%20Black/Rose
http://www.igigi.com/sidepages/popups/dsp_largeimage_mag.cfm?im=300412L.jpg&prodsku=300412&type=new&prodname=Magical%20Dress%20with%20Shawl%20in%20Barely%20Pink
this is the skirt:
http://www.igigi.com/shop/index.cfm?fuseaction=product.show¤tpage=1&Product_ID=376&fromcat=53&disptype=3
and this is the matching shirt
http://www.igigi.com/shop/index.cfm?fuseaction=product.show¤tpage=2&Product_ID=381&fromcat=53&disptype=3
I just found this site and the prices look reasonable and the clothing lovely and PLUS sized! www.onestopplus.com
excellent luck and no matter what you end up in wear a pair of cute shoes-always gives me a boost
You should get in touch with the bride, a letter would be o.k. and question her if she is going to wear a long or small dress. That way, you can plot on what to wear yourself. You do not want to show up with a long dress if the bride is wearing a small dress. There is nothing incorrect with a black dress, especially if you use trim of the main color, yellow, perhaps in a yellow sash – or yellow flowers at the waist. or on the wrist.
No black for afternoon garden weddings. I bet that Lane Bryant would have a nice dress. You’ll have to try things on see what looks excellent on you. You can wear something just above the knee if you like but not much higher than that.
At a truly formal afternoon wedding a light colored suit is traditional for women. If you have something in cream or khaki that might be nice. I wouldn’t buy it special, though. And if you’re not wearing a suit, no slacks.
I assume the gifts you want to buy are on the registry? Anything off the registry is fine. I would reckon really hard about buying something they didn’t register for as they will probably either return it or want to return it.