People get upset and offended if someone wants to marry in a cemetery. They say that it’s disrespecting the dead while others feel that they want to have the dead in attendance with them.
Then you have the recent trend as of the last 10 yrs to have memorials for passed relatives at the wedding so they will be there in spirit. Of course they are there in spirit, but people didn’t used to make any mentions of it. Nowadays, if you don’t want to include any mention about your deceased relatives and have a candle or other memorial for them then people say you’re being selfish. It’s a wedding, not a funeral. It’s supposed to be happy and seeing memorials of someone who has passed have been known to put a damper on people who otherwise would have had a great time.
But really how are the two different at all? Because they really don’t seem like they are. And what makes one acceptable and expected while the other offends people to no end?
For the record, I have no intentions of marrying in a cemetery but I have heard this argument many times, including a recent question that was posted here, and it makes no sense to me so maybe someone can clarify?
Understand typical problems that may arise before, during and after the wedding day
