I work wіth around 40 people аt a doctor’s office іn a urgent care setting. Therefore I dο nοt see everyone аll thе time. Thеrе аrе a few thаt I аm close wіth outside οf work whο wіll automatically gеt a mailed invite. Thе others whο I work wіth, I аm nοt close wіth thеm аt work οr dont really еνеr see. Dο I hаνе tο invite thеm? Females саn bе ѕο catty аnd gossip аnd I dont want tο hυrt anyone feelings (іf thаt wουld happen аt аll).
If I worked іn seperate departments іt wουld bе different bυt wе dont hаνе thаt here. Mοѕt οf thе females here thаt i dont talk tο outside οf work wουld οnlу come tο bе nosey ѕіnсе thats hοw thеу аrе.
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I used to work in a doctors’ office with about 60+ women. The way we did it there when we knew one of the girls would be getting married soon (because word travels pretty quick!) was the bride-to-be would place up one of her wedding invitations on the bulletin board (at the office I worked at, this was the refridgerator in the break room =D). This way, whoever wanted to come could come and the more clique-y people could choose to ignore it.
If you need a certain head count, this could turn tough. But then, that’s what putting RSVP on the invitation is for!
Excellent luck!
Congratulations Jazzy! It all comes down to finances…It is going to be such an unforgettable special day for the two of you. Even with unlimited funds, I would invite only family, friends and special acquaintances. No point in entertaining strangers that do not care for or know me, even if they are co-workers.
It’s not a necessity to invite everyone, but make certain that no one who is not invited to the wedding receives a shower invitation. Also, if anyone at work is going to throw you a “work shower” make it known to them that you haven’t invited all of your co-workers, so they won’t make the mistake of inviting other co-workers to the shower.
The general group invitation on the community bulletin board should be enough for those you work with that you really don’t spend much time with. Everyone understands that type of invitation.
You might even post a sign up sheet beside the invite to save them the RSVPing. Posting a sign up sheet also gives you the opportunity to remove it when you need to for final counts. If someone really wants to attend and the sign up sheet has been removed, they will let you know personally and politely beg to be included.
The cats will stay home or wil be working that day. Don’t even give them another thought. You have enough on your mind.
CGs!
You don’t HAVE to invite anyone you don’t WANT to invite. If it’s someone you aren’t around a lot and they’re getting up in arms because you didn’t invite them to your wedding, then they have larger issues they need to deal with.
You have some fascinating responses to your question. I would not have thought about posting the invitation.
As for me, I when I was married in 1988, my husband-to-be and I worked in the same dept. We didn’t have a lot of money. So, we invited the people in our department + a guest. We clarified to the others that our funds were limited. Most understood. The staff in our dept. gave us a wedding shower and invited women from other departments (who were not invited to the wedding). Everything worked out o.k.
Most people will know that funds are limited and not everyone will receive an invitation.
Invite whomever you want. It’s your wedding and your budget. Have a excellent time.
If you want to do something later, like have an open house or a holiday party, then invite everyone. It’s not the same, but it’s a nice gesture.
You DO NOT have to invite anyone you DO NOT want to attend.
As for the “bulletin invitation” I reckon that would be, well, very tacky IMO. They aren’t vital enough to be sent an invitation do not expect them to RSVP to a bulletin invite. I wouldn’t respond to any unless I was hand delivered one or mailed one.
I would suggest only inviting those whom you are close to. If the people who wouldn’t invite are going to be immature about it, then you will not want them at your wedding anyway. The wedding day will be the first day of your marraige. Therefore, you want people who are really going to support your marraige and be pleased for you during the celebration.
My thoughts on this are:
Invite those people in your life that have made a difference or whom have touched you in some special way. Those that have been there for you.
I do not feel you need to invite everyone you work with.
If the gossip wagon runs, simply apologize that your budget was limited and you could not invite everyone but much you wanted to.
Invite the people you are close to. You are not obligated to invite everyone you work with. This is not a 5th grade party where you have to invite all your classmates.
On another note, please do not expect a “work shower”. I used to work at a newspaper office with about 150 people. I got sick and tired of the wedding showers for people I either didn’t know or did not get an invitation to their wedding. It got expensive as well. (Same with baby showers for the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th kid).
The rule of etiquette is…do NOT invite people to a shower who have NOT been invited to your wedding…unless you want to look like a social clod.
As most people have already pointed out, you don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to. But to minimize problems with uninvited co-workers, make it your policy not to discuss your wedding (or your personal life in general) with anyone during working hours. Don’t even use your office phone for anything related to the wedding, or take any time away from work (except for the wedding itself, of course.)
If you can afford to, invite all of them, if you can’t afford to invite everyone, limit it to those you like. Simple.