Whу dοеѕ іt seem lіkе everyone іѕ getting married left аnd rіght? I аm 20 аnd іt seems lіkе I hаνе met ѕο many people lately whο аrе engaged οr married. Mοѕt people don’t even wait until thеу′ve bееn together fοr over a year! I know a girl whο wаѕ dating a guy fοr two MONTHS аnd thеу јυѕt gοt married! Didn’t even gеt engaged! Whаt іѕ going οn? Whу isn’t anyone waiting until thеу know thе οthеr person anymore?? I tοld mу friend I wanted tο wait until mу boyfriend wаѕ out οf college (three more years), аnd hе tοld mе thаt wаѕ ѕο long away, аnd qυеѕtіοnеd mе “whаt іf іt never happened?” Whу іѕ everyone іn such a rυѕh?
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It’s not really a trend…it’s just what happens with people your age! A few years from now, you’ll find yourself wondering why nobody gets married anymore…
well, im in the same boat as you. im 21. 2 of my three brothers are getting engaged, several people i graduated with are already married with children, another friend of mine is getting married in about a half a month, and i myself am engaged. now, one of my brothers has been with his girl for five years, and they have been through all sorts of stuff so i know thats real. my other brother was offically dating the girl he is marrying for about a month, but they had known each other for a longggggg time so its nothing weird to us. the people i graduated with who are already married, well, thats a small weird to me, id rather make absolutly certain i could afford it first (which is why im not getting married for another two years), and the other friend of mine who is getting married is getting married in a rush because they really do like each other and due to some weird army rule (they are both in the army) they have to get married before he gets promoted because they cant marry down. so everyone has their reasons, whether or not we know them, they wouldnt be doing it if they didnt feel it was right. hopefully the like really and truely is there.
Honey, as you pass 20, people are going to start getting married and you will be around it all the time. You will learn to deal with it, and get on with your life.
Don’t rush into anything, half the people you meet will get a divorce anyway for marrying too young.
Excellent question. With divorce rates running about 50% seems like a small caution would be called for. At your age there is often nearly a mass hysteria. Everyone is getting married and if you don’t you might miss out. This is incorrect thinking and you are right to be putting the brakes on. Wait until the right person comes along and the thought of not being married is too much to bear.
there is no rush, wait, get to know him better, there is plenty of time to get married and then you can still live together or live separately. Marriage is not a game, many people marry and divorce soon after.
Marriage numbers are on the upswing, but I was hoping it was couples waiting til at least their mid-20s – hopefully what you are seeing amongst your friends are just an anomaly. Amongst my family and friends, it tends to be in the late 20s – after college is done, and both have begun their careers.
Around your age, people are out of high school and have likely chose that it’s time to be an adult and without thinking very long, choose to get married because they want the stability of the family home that they recently left or will be leaving soon. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.
Wanna know something? Most of those people “rushing” into it at such a young age are looking for nothing more than to relive their prom with them getting to be the queen this time around! They don’t really want the reality of marriage, just the event.
It sounds like you’ve got a excellent head on your shoulders as far as the fall backs to rushing things…just stick with what you feel is right for you. And hey…if in 6 mos you change your mind and feel that “there’s no time like the present”…then go with it….
basically, right or incorrect its to each his own!
It’s not a trend. Five years ago, I got married and it seemed like all my friends were too. Now, it seems like everyone is getting pregnant. It just goes with age.
idk… im only 22 but ive been with my husband since our senior year of hs… we stuck dating out through me in collge and him in the marine corps.. we could have waited longer, but him being stationed in hawaii and our home town being in NJ its hard to be in like and that far apart..
I reckon it would be better to wait. My husband and I met in 1995, has our daughter in 2000 and got married in 2004. We are very pleased. My sister’s children on the other hand…not so pleased. Two of them got married young (early 20′s) and they are both divorced now.
What it sounds like is anecdotal reasoning. Maybe it seems like it to you, but it’s not really a trend. The national average is 25 for females and 27 for males.
i agree i feel that to and i feel like when is it my turn i reckon people just cant wait to plot a future but its excellent to wait longer because more time to save and more time to plot and see if its right to do it
It’s not really a trend. It’s just today, most people aren’t taking the time to get to know that special someone before taking “the plunge”. It’s sad, but sometimes it works out, most of the time it doesn’t.
My 1st ex, I knew 14 mos and married it failed after 14 yrs. My 2nd ex, I knew 8 mos. married, and it failed after 16 yrs. My current fiance’ and I are the BEST of friends and we’ve been dating for 6 yrs. I believe this one will last.
Just don’t be in a rush because everyone else is. You will find the right one when the time comes and you will know when it’s right. Take the time to get to know each other very well and be sure that’s who you want to wake up next to for the next 50 years. I wish I had taken my own advice a whole lot sooner and also wish I had met my future husband 30 years ago.
Excellent luck to you and GOD bless.